My boyfriend and I have dated off and on for about 3 years. We're now very serious. I've never talked to my dad about my relationships because I've never lived with him(I'm in my 20's). I'm wondering how I can break the news to my dad that I have a serious boyfriend and he hasn't really known much about it. What is the easiest way to keep him from getting angry?
2006-07-10 04:25:58 · 40 answers · asked by anonymous29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
why would he get angry? you're in your 20's... you should be dating! take him out for dinner and have a chat with him. explain the situation and tell him you want him to meet your boyfriend. good luck.
2006-07-10 04:27:19 · answer #1 · answered by gummi bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I have to say that you should be the on angry at your dad about this because your dad hasn't been the least interested in what you were doing or who you was seeing... So to tell you the truth I don't think he is going to care one way or the other...
I have a son who is 20 and even my sons step dad knows what my son is doing.
As a parent of two boys... I make it my business to know what is going on with my children because it shows them that I do care about them and that I am interested in what decisions they may make. With my 20 year old I let him decide how he wants to go about things; but I am there to give my opinion when he ask for it. Now he may not do what I say would be best, but he does consider it.. Do I get all pissed off and disown him... no I don't.. I let him learn by his own mistakes...
At this point in your life and the distance that clearly shows that is between you and your father... what difference does it make now.. even if you dad gets angry you are still going to do what you are going to do. So why worry about it now ...
Even at my age (I'm in my 40's now. I wished I had a mom and dad that I could talk to about things in my life... (both of my parents are dead now and my parents where a lot like your dad.)
2006-07-10 04:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. I was raised in a strict home, we didn't even TALK about relationships! I was 19 & moved into my own apartment before I started dating (to be allowed to date!).
First off, keep in mind that since he's your dad, no matter how old you are, he will always see you as that little baby girl in a ruffley pink dress. Most dads are like that. The sooner you accept that, the better off your dad-daughter relationship will be. He will always see you as his girl that he needs to protect. That's why the older we get the more dads feel that they are losing us, and it's harder for them to "protect" us. So they can come off as harsh at time, & downright difficult.
When you talk to him, lightly start mentioning your bf's name coincided with your activities. Like if he asks what you're doing/ what you've been up to, "Me &
"OMG! Dad! There was this AWESOME concert me &
You get the idea. If he doesn't catch on immediately, he will. If he's like my dad he'll catch on & put you thru the drill immediately. "Who's
2006-07-10 04:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by Back in the Day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through this 2 months ago because i knew that my father would be angry and shocked. I never told him that I had a boyfriend but the day had to come because I was having a house warming party. guess what he did not come over until 2 months later. When he Finally met my future husband, he saw that he was a nice, intelligent, and humble guy. Also they come from the same background which was a plus. Your father will realize that it is time to let HIS BABY GO.
2006-07-10 08:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by averilyn06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to be angry! You're an adult already. Just tell him you hadn't told him before because it was an on and off relationship but now that its serious you wanted to give him the good news, and you're in love. He'll be very happy for you.
2006-07-10 04:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go ahead and tell him. I had only been dating my boyfriend for one year when he proposed. I don't talk to my dad on a regular basis (my parents are divorced). He didn't even know I had a boyfriend. But when I sat down and told him that I was getting married, he was actually pretty cool about it. I just explained to him that we were in love and that I was truly happy. My dad said as long as he makes you happy, then I am happy!! Go for it you might be surprised how he reacts!! Good Luck!!
2006-07-10 05:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
o.k you are in your twenties so you are officially an adult now.but if something about your bf that you don't want you dad to know your going to have to tell him because if you don't and you end up marring him and your dad finds out he will be more upset that you didn't tell him. but if that's not the case and you've never been in a serious relationship with a guy then you need to tell him. your dad needs to know that little girls do grow up. if your dad and your boyfriend have something in common like basket ball then let them go on a little play date and play some b-ball and let one figure out what the other one is about.
2006-07-10 04:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start bringing the boyfriend around a little more often. Dad will get the hint. You also should ask your mother to maybe break him in of the fact as well. But you have nothing to hide and shouldn't be scared. It is a boyfriend and he should be expecting it
2006-07-10 04:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would he get angry about it? Does he expect you to be single the rest of your life? If you've never lived with your dad, it sounds like you're not that close to him, so he should have no problem with the fact that you have a boyfriend. Maybe you're worrying about nothing?
2006-07-10 05:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dads are dads. Depending on your relationship with him and by what you've said it doesn't sound like ya'll are all that close, so hey just tell him. You want him to meet someone special who you've been seeing for a while and things are getting serious. Hey it's not like you live under his roof or you're a teen. He'll be fine...if not now he will later
2006-07-10 04:30:07 · answer #10 · answered by mrsmomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why he would get angry if your a grown woman in your 20s. You should be able to be in a serious relationship if you want to. Besides, he should be happy for you if you are happy. And if you are happy then, that's all that matters. Good luck!!
2006-07-10 04:39:08 · answer #11 · answered by Courtney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋