how do I make my son love me without making him spoiled or a wuss?

Question

my son is 6 weeks old and i want to be his number one guy, the person he loves the most.

Answer 1

be a parent... don't be his friend. he may not always like you but he'll respect you.

always keep your promises and never make ones that you don't know for certain can be kept.

set limits and consequences and stick with them so he won't be spoiled.

do fun things with him sometimes just the two of you. teaching him things that he's interested in.

read to him and take him outside and tell him about what you see.

tell him everyday that you love him and give him lots of hugs and kisses.

Answer 2

Hmm, sounds like we already know who the wuss is here ;) Just kidding... it's a thought I've had a lot too.

I suggest the best way is to love him and spend as much quality time with him as you can. Encourage him to do what he wants in life, but be strict enough to instill a proper education in him. He'll thank you later, even though he may curse you now for checking his homework.

Don't allow him to watch TV much, or play too many video games... this will become hardest in the teenage years, when you get a little sick of each other and would rather just let him alone. Do not allow a computer or TV in his bedroom... a phone for that matter too, but give him access in a public room to these as a reward for hard studying and good grades.

Most importantly, love. Give him all the love you can as he is a child, because he is going to need that reservoir in his teenage years.

Answer 3

Just be there for him and the love will come naturally. Its only been 6 weeks, and your probably still adjusting to him being around. There is no need to worry about turning him into a wuss, a loving dad is a great asset to have in your childhood. The most important thing to remember, as he gets older, is that its tough to be your child's best friend and still be their parent. I often find it hard to draw the line between the two with my own kids. Of course, as parents, we want our kids to think of us as number 1, so its hard to be a disciplinarian sometimes. Just be there for him, love him, show him plenty of affection, and you ll be his number 1.....at least until hes a teenager.....then at that point you ll just be dumb old dad...lol. Good luck.

PS.......give him all the affection you want....its not gonna make him a wuss, and he needs it.

Answer 4

Don't try so hard... he WILL and probably does love you and if you see him regularly (I assume you're with his mother) he DOES think you're his #1 guy and I see NOTHING wrong with a LITTLE bit of "wuss" coming from both of you. My husband is a wuss when it comes to our 5 month old. He unfortunately works M-S 9am-9pm and only off on Sundays, so their time is limited, but my son (me too) lights up when he comes in at night! If my husband comes home after the baby has gone to bed,he trys to make it a point to feed him in the middle of the night to let him know he IS home and present for him. You will be fine, remember you have the rest of your life to from the best relationship you can form. Good luck and just relax!

Answer 5

Well just spend time with him. Right now hold him when mom is busy. Help her feed him. You can not spoil a child at 6 months old or turn him into a wuss. Show him affection through his whole life. As he gets older stay involved with his interests. Sports, etc.

Answer 6

oh sweetie don't worry you give that baby love hugs and kisses while his a baby and give him ur love forever you'll always be his number one guy your his daddy whether his 6 weeks old or 16 years old you no matter what. same as im sure he's ur number one little man and always will be. You'll be an absolutly fab daddy and role model i can tell just the way you write ur question with such compassion. good luck for the many wonderful years you have in the future with ur new son!!

Answer 7

That's easy.... love him. Take care of him, be there for him when he gets hurt, or when he does something great. Teach him cool things as he gets older. Read to him and give him baths now. The key is to be as involved as much as possible. And don't worry about it so much. Your son will love you no matter what. And just wait for that first magical day when he jumps up and gives you a hug and a kiss for no reason.... it's the greatest feeling in the world!

Answer 8

With your love and time you spend with him. Don't go buying him a ton of things to try to buy his love. Thats the mistake many parents make...only to raise a spoiled child. The child turns into an adult that is never satisfied. They feel that they never have enough, that nothing is ever good enough. I've seen it too many times. You want him to love you, not be dependant on you for the rest of his life.

Answer 9

#1 is that you should allow him to love other people also (like his mom) - don't be so selfish about it. when you have another kid you want to love the other kid just as much so give him that same opportunity. to also love others.

#2. take parenting classes and read parenting books. discipline is necessary (not at 6 weeks of course). but hone your skills. you don't need to make him spoiled or wussy. but at 6 weeks just spoil him as much as you want and hold him and love him. In a couple of years you can start the discipline.

Answer 10

Love him always and unconditionally. He will love you back. Kids don't need things, they need emotional support, guidance, and most of all love.

PS. this will not make him a wuss. It will make him a well adjusted and confident adult. Babying him would make him a wuss. Babying is too condescending to be truly love. Kids are little people, not stupid people.