Im terrified when i think that one day it will happen to me.Whether i really want it or not.I dont know exactly what im afriad of.Im a girl and i have heard that da first time would be painful.Is it true?But just thinking about it makes me freak out.Is it natural?Or am i just being stupid?
2006-07-10 03:57:49 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your just scared, it doesn't hurt that bad! you may just be a little sore the next morning.
2006-07-10 03:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mz. Tanning Bed Junkie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost your are not being stupid. Many girls have this concern but most I think do not fear it. As to the pain. It does not have to be painfull. The pain comes from breaking your Hyman and perhaps being small.
Pain does not always happen or at least it can be minimal. You must insist that your first partner take all the time you need. If you ride horses or bikes or do anything that you have to bounce your bottom a lot you may not have that hyman anyway. It can be broken in many ways. Even a doctor can do it if you fear it too much.
There may be something in your past that is causing the fear. Or it may just be the stories you hear. Stories are just that. Pay no attention. Mostly it is the fear of the unknown. Talk with your mother and have her tell you all about it. Fear comes from not knowing what to expect. The more you know about something the less you have to fear it.
Believe it or not by the time you are ready for that first time you will want it much more than you think now. But what ever you do be sure it is with someone you trust and know will be gental with you. NEVER EVER let yourself be presured into it. If a guy tries that he does not have your best interest at heart.
There is a world of information about this on the Internet but your mother is your best bet. The Internet will mislead you and while some information will be correct many others will not.
Fear not, for this is one of the best things in life if you have the right partner. And as with most other things in life it will never be as bad as you emagine. And this is just part of being a woman which you are so lucky to be in so many ways.
2006-07-10 04:16:03 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is natural, and even though the first time can hurt a little bit, for me I did not even notice. The reason for that is because I was with the man I love and he was very gentle and understood that I was scared. That made all the difference. If you find the right person it will not be scary. If they love you, they will be willing to be gentle and listen to you the first time. Let him know what you like or don't like and tell him no if it is something you don't like and this will make it easier. If you get in a situation where it is hurting and you do not say no it is only going to hurt worse because you will be tensed up. Just try to relax and make sure you are with the right person and it is a wonderful experience not scary at all.
2006-07-10 04:02:18 · answer #3 · answered by LuckyWife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u are not being stupid. i think you are just being intellegent. the first time does hurt of corse. it is not all it is cracked up to be. you are obviously young and are not ready for it which you should not be ashamed you should be proud of it. you should be scared of sex there are so many std (sexually transmitted diseases) that you can contract from having sex. most people in this world are not honest and people become infected every day with hiv/aids here in america as well as all over the world. at your age i am sure you are not ready for marriage let alone get pregnent and have a child. you do not want to be a single mother any time soon. girls who choose to have sex prematurley end up suffering for the rest of their lives because they end up getting pregnent due to peer pressure or trying to fit into a crowd. not all girls get pregnent but it happens more often then not. do you want to be one of those girls? there will be no one there to help you because all those friends who were telling you how cool it is to have sex will be out doing something else with their lives. not to mention most younger guys are not there when they impregnate a woman. i am not saying these things will happen to you but they could if you do have sex. do not be scared of sex if it does not apply to you. when you are older you will know when the time is right. make sure you take all the necessary procautions so you do not regret it later. for now be good, go to school, and think about your furture. enjoy being a kid. good luck and be smart!
2006-07-10 04:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a natural part of life that should be enjoyed to the fullest.There is nothing wrong with sex. It should be done safely in all cases this way : always use birth control,always have a guy wear a condom no matter what level of birth control you have unless you have seen an actual STD test result from that person.When you are sure you know all the facts on a person and their sex life(cause you will be having sex with all those people as well) feel free to enjoy sex, it's 100% natural and should be enjoyed. Just don't screw up and have a child: We don't need to multiply.
2006-07-10 04:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ray H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see you never had sexy cuz you said your afraid of it or you had sexy but your first time was hard???? but everyone is afriad of sexy 1 they might not know how there partner want to perform or your afraid to get pregenat which everyone is well the females and some guys an that your afraid that its will really hurt you. Well its good to be afraid its better off being afraid than just going out and do it and then feel the out come so be safe an be afraid its okay so wait till your really ready to have sex aiight cutie 1 love later
2006-07-10 04:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by sgtmorgan2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being stupid, its just the way you are. If you don't want it then don't do it. It does hurt a lot for the first time but after doing it a couple of times it wont hurt anymore. You'll be fine, you will find the right person to give it to one day, I wouldn't worry. Sex is sex, I have many friends that are afraid of doing it, and afraid of losing their virginity. I tell them the same thing I tell anyone else. Don't rush it.
2006-07-10 04:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that.. most of the horror 1st time experience are caused by INexperience young little virgin boys.. sometimes they get too hot and just wanna plunge that tool into you and thats it. For the next moment you will be screaming and grabbing on the sheets with tears dripping down your cheeks.
IF this is what fears you... You might need to find a more experience sensual lover... who would kinda warm you up with passionate kissing, rubbing and eating, before going Full throttle. You might not even notice he has already GOT THERE!!! :)
2006-07-10 04:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by furforfurryme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to be terrified. With the right person at the right time and with tons of patience, the discomfort will be replaced with a pleasure that is beyond description. Patience is the key word here. The guy you're with should care enough about you to take the time to make sure you're ready,
J
2006-07-10 04:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is afraid of the unknown. don't just pick anyone ! Have a deep feeling or in love with that person, they will easy you into it and not hurt you mentally or physically. yes the first time will be painful. That's why you need some one who cares about you and not a Jerk who wants to just be the first and get off because you don't know what to expect Be smart and patient make sure the time is right for you. because this will affect you for the rest of your "LIFE" And Please practice SAFE SEX now days SEX CAN KILL!!!
2006-07-10 04:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by Honey X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a stupid question.
Sex is not painful for everyone the first time. It may or may not be for you. Some people experience pain EVERY time they have sex. You'll never know until you try. It's natural - don't be afraid.
Know your partner well and use protection. Always practice safe sex to prevent disease.
2006-07-10 04:01:33 · answer #11 · answered by crazyotto65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋