Question for practicing Christians ONLY!?

Question

Why is it that most (im not gonna say all) christians feel it necessary to get married when your really young. I know like 6 people who are under 23 and have all gotten married in the past 2 years. Im just curious as to what it is about your religion that makes you want to get married so young and before your ready to be married. Most of the christians I know are not finished school, dont have careers, and really cant afford to be married. I dont want anyone to take offence to this im just really really curious.

to those who say im "stereotyping" i DID say "im not gonna say all"....it just seems like there is an abundance of them getting married wayyy too early..im sorry if i offended anyone

Answer 1

i know what you mean, i was 20 when i got married but is wasnt for religious reasons at all. i think its the need to have the christian family it is in a way part of it if you take that according to our religion we arent supposed to have sex before marriage and we see marriage as a sacred act and union before God. i cant speak for everyone and no offence towards my hubby but getting married too young is a big mistake you lose out on your young life. i think people have the wrong concept of marriage in general. good question!

Answer 2

I understand your question because I have asked it a lot. I am a practicing Christian and it always bothered me that I was meant to get married so young. I lost a best friend over this fact just a week ago. She doesn't believe that I should be dating my current boyfriend because he is not "marriage" worthy.

I do understand why people believe getting married early is necessary. It's because God gave you a commandment to multiply and replenish the Earth. By this he meant to have babies. Since this is the main purpose of life on Earth, you should begin as soon as possible. I do want to get married before I'm 25. But I want to wait until I'm ready. I personally believe it is a mixture of both.... : )

Answer 3

I don't think it is so much that they want them to marry young, or before they are ready, as it is that they should be married before they are intimate. And well, your sex drive is higher when you are young. I personally found the only woman I wanted to be with for the rest of my life and married at the age of 24. I have no regrets, I love her fiercely. To give a brief timeline:

I had known her at college for a while.
Early November 1998: Helped her study for her college class.
Late November 1998: Started dating.
Late December 1998/early January 1999: asked her to marry me
March 1999: married her

I found the one I loved and didn't see any sense in waiting. Maybe your younger friends did too. People told us we were crazy, but you know what? Most of them are not doing too well on the relationship front, and me and my wife are stronger than ever.

Answer 4

Hm, that's interesting. Most of my Christian friends have gotten engaged in college and either married when they graduated or plan to marry when they finish graduate school. The only Christian I know that got married really young was my mother and that was just a different day and age.

Maybe its just the geographical region you're in? Or maybe they don't want to sin and have sex before marriage so they just hurry up and marry to have sex?

Answer 5

I'm a practicing Christian who is 25 and not yet married, nor am I in any hurry to do so. I don't believe that this is a prevalent issue among christians, perhaps it is just a coincidence. At one time it was not unusual to marry in the early 20's though this is not the average today.

Answer 6

I don't think "most" Christians feel that it is necessary to get married really young. When I was a young bride, it was pretty much expected that a girl would get married when she finished high school.
Times and trends change. And that is as it ought to be.

Answer 7

Hi there, it doesn't have to do with religion...as for me i'm 30 and I still haven't found "Mr. Perfect" yet. I do know that i'm NOT going to live with him before hand as I found out in one of my classes that leads to 20% more chance of a divorce within the first 3 years of marriage. As for those people, maybe they just found the right person and decided to go for it. :) I have a Bachelors degree, am getting started on my career, and hopefully when I have those two, the third thing will come around. :) Don't steryo type Christians that way. :)

Answer 8

I've been wondering this myself. I'm a practicing Christian, and my parents got married really young, but I think that's changing in our culture. I know I don't want to get married for at least another ten years (I'm 17).

I think maybe some Christians just think they need to rush things. I know I'm constantly freaking out about the future and who I'll marry and stuff, but I just need to calm down and realize I can't rush love, nor do I really want to.

I hope that answered your question. :)

Answer 9

I am not sure it is just Christians that get married early. But is there anything wrong with getting married early? So what if they don't have careers yet. Since when is it a pre-requisite to have a career to get married? What about love? Certainly love should have SOMETHING to do with it. But I would also say this, that it's better for two Christians to get married than to have sex outside of marriage. Jesus Himself said it is better to get married than to burn with passion outside of marriage.

Answer 10

Not all Christians get married so young. Your realm of experience could be giving you a false impression of the way the rest of the world operates. However, young Christians who take purity pledges do have a tendency to marry young just so they can have guilt-free sex.