we broke up this winter and i insisted in remaining friends(he didn't believe people could be friends after being together)
he knows me better than anyone and i know him really well,and i considered him my best friend a few weeks ago..
the problem is that we are either best friends, or we don't get along at all,there's no middle way..we almost never fought over serious things, it was always smth unimportant.. i would always say i'm sorry, he would admit his fault too, and we would get back together (as friends), closer than ever..
last week he asked me a favour(he wanted me to help him on a project, thing that would've involved seing him almost everyday. knowing that i still care about him and that i risk falling in love with him again if see him that often, and aware that he has a gf,i said no)we fought ,he said that we won't talk again this time and we peacefully said goodbye
i wrote him a message yesterday,but he didn't answer
i don't want to lose his friendship..
any advice?
2006-07-10 03:39:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
MOVE ON...lifes to short to dwell on lost causes...always remember...people always want what they can't have...and he knows that...and..."bingo"...it's working...if you don't call him or talk to him...he'll be the first one to call you back...my question is this...do you really want him back...life's full of to much B.S...as it is...to add any more into it...MOVE ON...that is...unless...your a glutton for self punishment...accept what is...as being what is... and leave well enough alone...life is just to short to be misserable all the time...enjoy all that life has to offer you...MOVE ON...
One thing I've always done in the past...is said a prayer to start the day...and I'm going to past this prayer on to you...God grant me the ability of wisdom...to accept the things that are...and the ability to change the things that I can...and the knowledge and understanding to help create a better tomorrow for all to live in...
2006-07-10 03:50:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's hard being friends with an ex. I was friends with an ex, but now he just acts like I don't exist or that he barely knows who I am. I don't know if it is possible to be really good friends with an ex that you still have feelings for in that way. Give him a little space and let him realize what he is losing. If he takes too long, try sending another message or calling. However, if he still doesn't answer, then you will just have to accept that you lost a friend. Hope it works out how you want it to.
2006-07-10 03:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mustang L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a few days to chill.... right now he's mad at you for not doing what he wanted. Although i'd suggest maybe hookin up with some other friends to keep your mind busy and off him. I think you made the right decision by not helping him especially because he has a gf . After a bit im sure he'll realize you did it out of respect for his new gf as well as yourself.
2006-07-10 03:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by Coyote 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can so easily ignore you, maybe you need to take a step
back and "ignore" him. You said he has a girl friend...he has
moved on, and you are not ready to deal with him as "just a
friend." You can not lose a friendship you never had.
2006-07-10 03:49:35 · answer #4 · answered by elcycer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like too many "mind games" going on here. Sounds like you have something for him - that you're sending a message that you do and he's afraid too. Neither of you know what you want is what the problem is.
2006-07-10 03:42:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem, we agreed to be friends and i call him and he never has time for me but he calls me in the middle of the night (i guess when he's lonely) wanting to talk and thinks thats okay. try ignoring him for a while and if he really cares, he will call and not ignore you
2006-07-10 03:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by Mz. Tanning Bed Junkie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still have feelings for him then you dont need to be around him if you dont want it to be "a relationship" instead of a friendship how are you supposed to be best friends when you cant help your feelings, i say give it time..it'll work out!!
2006-07-10 03:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by LUCKYGIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away, let him go. IF children are involved you have to maintain a civil relationship for them. otherwise, go your seperate ways their are so many other FISH IN THE SEA. Move on deary.
2006-07-10 03:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by sinneragain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants you back and all it is going to do if you stay close is get back together so if you want to be friends, say hi and move on he has a girlfriend and I am sure she does'nt like you and him being buddy buddy, you have history so find a boyfriend and move on
2006-07-10 03:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, just move on, if your feelings for him are still strong and he doesn't want that, why shouldn't he avoid you? He has a gf, let him live his life.
2006-07-10 03:43:39 · answer #10 · answered by Mahira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋