Who I do not want to be in love with, but I cannot help the way I feel. I am so ready to move on but it's hard. I seem to attrack guys that are nuts. I have been stalked by 3 different guys, I had them peeping through my window, listen outside my door, I have had my number change I don't know how many times. They say it's because I can't fall in love with them because I am so stuck on my married friend, that is not the case. I just want someone who is on the same page as me. career, education, money. I so tired of the bullshit, I was married for 15 years and that fool turned out to be crazy. What do I do? I guess I am looking for love in all the wrong places.
2006-07-10 03:34:54 · 15 answers · asked by Ms. Good P. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't help who you fall in love with, but you can be responsible for your actions. Wanting to be with a married man, and attracting crazy men seems to be a red flag. Perhaps you need to think about yourself first. You have to be able to love you, and know that you deserve the very best. Once you feel better about yourself, the good guys will be attractive to you.
2006-07-10 03:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in love with a married man too. It is only a phsyical thing between us but I am really into him. He is exactly what I would like to find in a single man (except the cheating part) but all the single men I meet seem to be loosers. I know exactly what you're going through. It's hard to give up the married guy when they single guys out there are jerks
2006-07-10 10:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you answered your own question basically. You are looking for love in all the wrong places. Leave the married man alone. Even if you did have something going with him, the chances of him leaving his wife are probably not very good. If he did, what makes you so sure that he won't cheat on you in a few years.
2006-07-10 10:38:09 · answer #3 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to contact the cops for 1 thing it is against the law for people peeping through your windows at you and second you need spiritual help contact your Pastor and tell him what is causing you so much frustration cause the Pastor is there to help you and his advice is free not like a psycholigist which is over 120 dollars an hour so call up your Pastor if you don't have one ask a friend to recommend their Pastor belive me you will feel like a 25 ton weight has been lifted from your shoulders
2006-07-10 10:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are so many losers out there, I wouldn't be surprised you fell for someone that is married. You think if they are married they aren't creepo's and you're probably right. I know a woman in your same position and she's just decided to stay single. You will find your way.
2006-07-10 10:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Voila! Another Monday morning and here it is again. The old "Justify my affair question". Still ain't gonna happen. Make sure you ask the wife before you go out with her husband, or perhaps you two are already banging?
Hopefully they have kids, that way you can devastate their lives too, so they can join you in your self pity sob fest. Good for you, it's really great when someone can feel so sorry for themselves that they are willing to destroy someone else's lives.
2006-07-10 10:38:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I say take time for yourself and find yourself. Put the love playing field on hold for a little while. We all need some down time to ourselves every now and then. When the right one comes along you will know it. Time is on your side. Remember to do and go with what make you happy. Never sell yourself short on happiness. Good Luck!!!
2006-07-10 10:38:39 · answer #7 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, but I was the wife. Married men who cheat are simply just pigs! It would help if you (and other women) didn't fool around with married men, but I know how that goes... The men tell you things like they aren't happy and getting ready to leave his wife... so forth and so on... No offense to you, but get rid of him. If he does leave his wife for you then he will eventually leave you for another woman.
2006-07-10 10:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by Kristin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that's not love its something else you know the meaning of love is devotion and if you r say that you are in love with yr married friend than there r only two ways its bitter but as a friend i am suggesting you.pls don't mind.
whether you r destroying your friends married life or he is playing with you by show is good skills and good talking or may be something else.
2006-07-10 10:46:53 · answer #9 · answered by sumircanada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop dating the married guy. Stop dating the type you typically go for. Test the waters out of the normal parameters you always pick from. Maybe you'll stop the cycle.
2006-07-10 10:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋