my friend has to boyfriends and she wont listen to me if a give her advice
2006-07-10 02:45:32 · 35 answers · asked by Kaitlyn C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the relationships are casual, dating two boys is fine.
She can date as many as she wants.
However, if she is serious about both and they are serious about her, she's lookin' for trouble ahead.
She will either be dumped by one or both if they find out.
Or the guys can do the "alpha male thing" and get into a physical fight over her.
Maybe that's the attention she wants.
Maybe she's that needy and greedy.
Or perhaps both of these guys are cheating on her with other girls. Has she considered that?
Hey, turn around is fair play.
As far as you are concerned.... you've voiced your opinion (as a friend) once and that's all you should do. It's her decision to make ... and her fall to take.
2006-07-10 02:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Primrose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I have two boyfriends then I'm SHOCKED, because it means I've gone through some major changes rather quickly. In your case, you seem like you wouldn't have two boyfriends at the same time.
In your friend's case, without making a judgement, she's who she is at this stage in her life. She's going through (hopefully) something and will learn from experience that doing that may NOT be the best thing to do. Of course, I think we're all assuming that there's a subterfuge going on: that she's keeping knowledge of the two away from one another and she's juggling live and lies. IF this is the case, then it's unhealthy because it destroys the fabric of faith and trust in a relationship and in the end she's hurting herself.
However, if she's dating and all three know the situation and are okay with it, then that's between them and it actually might be a healthy thing.
For your part, as difficult as it may be and absent a life-threatening situation, don't give advice unless you're asked for it (I say that as someone who's learned that the hard way).
2006-07-10 02:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by cboni2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that having two boyfriends is a HUGE mistake. (That's my personal opinion). But i think she needs to break up with the one who she really doesn't "love". The problem here is that she could get caught up in it. One day someone might find out and tell one of her boyfriends, therefore causing a eruption in her life and in the two men. If your friend doesn't have one already you definitely don't want her to get a reputation. There are to many whores and liars out there so why does your friend want to be one too? What you are doing is showing true friendship you are a great friend to do this for her. I hope you might sit her down one day and show her this advice on what to do. Hey she might not listen to you, but, here there might be loads of people's advice. And if she doesn't do the advice that we (yahoo) gave her she definitely is thinking about it. Best of Luck.
2006-07-10 02:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by Alexa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop giving her advice. My cousin has a 5-month old baby by a guy almost twice her age; they've been together 2+yrs, and for the first time 3 weeks ago he beat her up. They lived together in one state & now she's in her home state with the rest of her family. But, she's seriously thinking about going back to him. All of us, including me, has talked until we're blue. She won't listen. So I'm not stressing myself out anymore trying to talk to her; I'll just be there for her when he does it again (which it will happen again), and be her shoulder to cry on. Good luck.
2006-07-10 02:55:51 · answer #4 · answered by Back in the Day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not taking your advice why would she take our advice? But I really can't answer this question because I don't know the whole story. Do the two guys know about each other? If not then I find that wrong but if so and they don't have a problem then that is their decision. Really it's also your friends decision. I know you're trying to help her so she doesn't regret it in the future and I applause you for that but I also think since she is willing to do this let her learn herself. It's hard just watching it probably but since she's doesn't want to take your advice let her learn the hard way.
2006-07-10 02:50:29 · answer #5 · answered by B.J. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-10 02:50:28 · answer #6 · answered by DWHM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wont listen there is nothing you can do except sit back and wait for her to get caught. Be a friend and dont tell her "I told you so" just be a friend most people learn from their own mistakes
2006-07-10 02:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wuz gunna tell u to give one up then i ffound out ur friend has the 2 b/f's and if she won't listen tel her to listen to her heart or listen to urs if there is something u think u can do te help her.
2006-07-10 03:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by Softball_Chica_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN !! you fall in love with both then cant' make up ur mind in the end opppp did you get prego now who's the father hmmm see the picture now bad picture RUN from one now. You could save a friend ship after all
2006-07-10 02:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by casper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give her any advice...she may not listen and needs to deal with the boys herself.
2006-07-10 02:48:15 · answer #10 · answered by TL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋