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My friend is dating someone. I always though they had just a casual relationship. He recently graduated from college, and she has visited him at his house, and recently he visited her in Asia where she lives part of the year. She is still in college for another year. Does this sound like they are getting more serious? I like this girl, but being that I am older than her, and when I met her she was still in College, I kept my distance. My experience in College was filled with a lot in insecurity, unfaithfulness and lying. I didn't want to get involved in this 2 years ago when I met her, but I always though we would get the chance at some point. How can I tell if she is available or not, or ever will be?

2006-07-10 02:41:46 · 7 answers · asked by 15fsg546rge1rrheljh45hjr90459ty3 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

7 answers

she never will be available because they are going to get married

2006-07-10 02:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0 0

As far as visiting someone like a friend who is far away is also good. You travel, maybe even somewhere you have never been to, and it keeps friendships alive. Just because you visit someone as far as Asia does not mean they are getting serious. I visited friends in Spain and Italy when I was in college and I did not have any kind of love connection with either of them. We just met in college and became friends and later they moved to Europe....and we remain friends. I even attended the wedding of one of them and had a wonderful time.

In your case, you should stop being so insecure. She probably senses your insecurity and hates it! So stop. Think you are the best for her and go for it! You can find out if she is available or not, the same way you found out she travelled to Asia. I would give it a chance and if it does not work, then move on! Life is great, and I am sure you have lots to offer.

2006-07-10 09:52:33 · answer #2 · answered by secretagnt50 2 · 0 0

Unfortunately, your only real option is to ask.

You are absolutely right though about college: There's a lot of changes
in interpersonal relationships as people grow and are exposed to new options.

However, I would say that a casual visit, even on another continent, is
not proof of sexual intent.

If someone in China offered to put ME up for a week, I'd be hard pressed
to say no regardless of intent. Or personal hygiene :)

2006-07-10 09:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Elana 7 · 0 0

Perhaps you should be honest and ask if they are serious and if the chance would exist for a relationship between the two of you,

2006-07-10 09:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by jegreencreek 4 · 0 0

Maybe you should try to get ckose to her 1st, then slowly when both of you are quite close, maybe you can ask her to be your girlfriend?, if she rejected you, at least you know that you have tried, if she really did reject you, go find a new girlfriend then.

2006-07-10 09:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Why not ASK...."is your relationship serious? Or can we have lunch together sometime?"

2006-07-10 09:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0 0

ask her about how she feels about him and where it is going.

2006-07-10 09:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by mickey e 2 · 0 0

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