Well, I've this friend from Northern Africa he came all the way to visit me in Europe and he stayed with his relatives 200 km away from me. Well, I told him I had exams and he could stay with me only for a couple of days. He called and said he just wanted to meet me for one day, from 9 am to 9 pm and I said ok. When he came we kept roaming the city until 5 pm and I told him I had to study. He said "ok I understand", but when we arrived at the train station he kept looking in my eyes and said plz stay with me. I left him saying I'm sorry. Do you think I'm mean?
2006-07-10 01:30:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're not mean, you can't help the way you feel, but you should have been honest.
2006-07-10 01:34:37 · answer #1 · answered by AlloAllo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer your question without knowing a bit more about the situation.
1- Did you guys plan the visit?
If so then you should have told him to wait a week to go to europe until after your exams, the whole idea of exams is to study not be out having fun and visiting he should have understood.
2- Did you have feelings for him before meeting?
A lot of internet relationships/friendships come to a complete halt once meeting in person, because either they dont look the way you want or act the way they did on the computer, and if the case was you were attracted to him anymore after meeting you really should have let him know instead of hurting him by just walking off.
3- If he knew you had exams and kept insisting on you droping what you were doing to come meet him "because he came all the way up to Europe" thats wrong. He had no right to put pressure on you making you feel bad that he came up there to spend time with you knowing school comes first your schooling is your future. And he was also in the wrong when you said that you really had to get your studying in and twice he tried to get you to put off something very important.
I really dont think your mean, I think their was a lot of miscommunication going on and if you did tell him about exams prior to him leaving for europe then he sure isnt the type of guy for a friendship or relationship, more of a one night stand... Thinking about himself and his hormones before you and your future is just not boyfriend material!!!
2006-07-10 08:46:10 · answer #2 · answered by alishana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it might of seemed mean...but if it was me I would of been mean only because I was stressing out about exams I wouldn't of been mean on purpose. So I don't think you were mean. But if you were just using that as an excuse not to stay then yes thats mean hehe.
2006-07-10 08:34:41 · answer #3 · answered by babyblue0222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...I think you have your priorities in the right place...you were quite clear about your scheduling....you may have been able to be a little more flexable, but that aside, you are not mean.....Your friend should have know at this point that you are intelectually motivated...
2006-07-10 08:35:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were being rude and even evasive because your reason/excuse was not good enough to convince him. And you've definitely hurt him. If he's still around, try to make it up to him.
2006-07-10 08:35:36 · answer #5 · answered by danielle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you freaked out because it all became to real... you're human, I don't think you're mean... just had cold feet perhaps. I probably would of done the same.
2006-07-10 08:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so but he must have wanted a little more than friendship. but if he didnt know where he was that was kinda mean
2006-07-10 08:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by gaurdianangelic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes yr mean cuz that's appear from yr story that he love u until death and u treated him badly after all that u mean with yr time to meet him
2006-07-10 08:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by bosy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are!!! sorry but that sounds like you broke his heart for no good reason, should have told him before he came
2006-07-10 08:33:30 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but he should have told you that he wanted more than just friendship.
2006-07-10 08:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by zmebme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋