We have been going out for quite a while now (5 months) and I didn't want to hope that it would ever go this far. But it has, and I really like him. It has been a very happy relationship for both of us. Only, we're both going on long vacations this week, and won't see each other for a month or so, and he told me he loved me. What should I tell him? I really like him, but I don't think it's love yet.
2006-07-10 01:25:39 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
woman chill. you have only been together for five months, explain to him that to love takes a little more time to grow. Stop being so insecure, you ll see each other when the vacation is over, and all will still be happy. and for gods sake people stop being the spazzomazzic 5000 every time there is a little concern. So your not ready for this whole in love thing, that's really smart of you to realize this it shows your maturity. And you shouldn't have to feel that you need to say "I love you" until your ready, you can show it if you do feel it, but whats the hurry, are you scared that he wont be there when you get back, or even worse, he will?
2006-07-10 01:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest about your feelings. The best way to have the relationship you always desired is to communicate w/ each other. This is why most relationship fail these days. No one communicates anymore.
If you truely care for this guy whether it be love, like, etc. then be honest about your feelings. It shouldn't matter that you 2 are going on vacations, if you care for each other then continue your relationship and let it lead from there. Sometimes being apart for a while is the best thing for a relationship. It will give you both time to think about where you want this relationship to go in the future.
2006-07-10 08:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jessi K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest. Tell him that you've only been together for 5 months, and while that was enough time for you to grow to really like him, Love is something that you don't think you're feeling yet. Love takes time to build , it doesn't happen out of the blue. I am all for waiting until you mean it to say it, and you should too. Good Job. Most people just say I love you cause the other person did.
2006-07-10 08:38:17 · answer #3 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't tell him that you love him. 5 months isn't long enough to know for sure if you love someone or not. People who rush in and tell there significate others that they love them within a couple of months are always the first ones to end it...or cheat...or get bored quick. Just tell him the truth. that you like him alot. But you don't love him yet. If he doesn't understand that. Then he doens't really love you.
2006-07-10 08:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you aren't the kind of person to use the word "love" right away - that it takes time to find out if something is true love. Ask him to be patient - that you still want to date him but you take the words "I love you" very very seriously and he can be assured that when you DO say them, you will mean them.
This will not only keep you two together, but it will also make you sound intelligent, mature and not possessive or controlling. There are too many people who use those words I love you too much and they start not sounding "real."
2006-07-10 08:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't take long for you to like someone! but it takes awhile for Love! If you are going on different Vacations that will give you both time to think about each other! And see where that brings you!
2006-07-10 08:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by Daisy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a relationship of more than 8 years, end up nothing. Thus, what is 5 months, tell him be patience and not to rush up. Let nature take the place, this is of not goods in the market. Make yourself not easy for him to reach, never mind of losing him if he cannot wait for this relation to mature.
2006-07-10 08:36:37 · answer #7 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what you want out of the relationship. How will you feel if he gets involved whilst on vacation. Or the question here is whether you want to get involved and experience something different.
Think twice before making any hasting decisions
2006-07-10 08:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by MATADOR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you really enjoy spending time with him and you think this could turn into something much bigger and while your away you will miss him like crazy but you want to be sure before you blurt out i love you back. he should understand your need to be sure unless he just needs to be lied to then you just go yeah you to babe . nah just kidding about the last part but just tell him you want to enjoy it for what it is at the moment. sunshine
2006-07-10 08:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that
and if ya feel no more then that too if undecided then that if waiting to see after break then that if thinking about other then that too
truth saves a lot of pain later
no one should put others in pain if can avoid
truth best way
2006-07-10 08:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋