How do I make my sister happy again? She thinks she's in hell. I really wanne help her. Thnx?

Question

She's is depressed. She has been going trough a bad peroid. She thinks that this is her hell. That everything around her, is here, to make her live miserable.

Answer 1

It depends whats shes going though. If its personal, she may have to work it out alone. If she does share whats happening, the best advice is to go ahead and listen, annnd be positive. Very positive. When you mix hot water with cold you get warm. Try not to be negative at any point, and be comforting. If your asking for something in particular, take her out to the movies? Get her a little something. When a friend of mine is upset I'll get together with my friends and well go out..maybe party..maybe a movie or just crus'n I'll treat him like every things ok, laugh have fun. Makes them forget for a little awhile whats wrong, a respite from whats bothering her. Be happy and share with it her.

It would have also helped if I knew how old she was. Making a 9yr. old happy is prolly easier than say a 15yr. old happy.

Answer 2

I do not know whether your sister is born after you or vice versa. If she is born after you, the chances are that she has tried to emulate you in every step and probably not successful in doing so.

Step one: Ur sis must see and feel that you are relaxed and non a threatening person. If your working some where call her during the day and taker her out for a movie or dinner or just walk in the park with some peanuts to eat.

Step Two: Help her find gifts she has like painting, knitting, cooking, flower arrangement and encourage her to engage in any one of the activities. Appreciate just enough make her feel happy. Once in a while a caring would work wonders. Control your emotions and do not cry with her. Am I asking you too much to do. If u love ur sis it is not enough. Tell her a joke and if she does not laugh or giggle do not be embarrassed and just say, let me try another one.

Warm wishes for a happy healing.

Guru sundara

Answer 3

She sounds like she is really down and I was wondering if she had gone to see her GP? Many people will say that anti-depressants are not the answer but I have been where you sister is and it does feel like hell. Her doctor could prescribe some low dose anti-depressants and get her some good counselling (cognitive therapy would be the best for her) and these two things combined will change her life around. Like I say I have been there and feel for her. She may not have the strength inside her to so this and you may have to push her. She will thank you for helping her in time. She may try to make you feel like the wicked sister who is pushing her around and you might even feel like this yourself. Believe me, when you are depressed you feel like you can't be bothered to do anything because you feel like nothing you can do could possibly make any difference. Without my husbands constant help and encouragement, I know that I wouldn't be the person I am today. She needs help and she is lucky enough to have a sister like you who wants to help her.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 4

If your sister really feels that she is in hell then maybe you should suggest that she see a doctor. Also another thing that you may try is that she make a list of good things that are in her life. This will help encourage her to be in a more positive mood. Be supportive and an ear for her to talk to you. It will not be easy but with some help from her regular physician and some other things she should start to see the light.

Answer 5

Don't pay too much attention to the 'touchy-feely' advice. Do seek professional help and medication. It's not a bad thing to take meds under supervision. Any community will have free social service advice and help you out. They are generally kind and considerate and easy to reach. Ask around if you have a problem finding them.
I've been there so I know the suffering. It's real enough. Good luck. You,re a good sister!

Answer 6

Have someone make and take her a snack big enough for 2 people. Have them eat it with her so that they can see she eats her share. Do this 2 times a day, in addition to regular meals.

These snacks should have protein (poultry and fish are best, unless you are a vegetarian and then soy is very good), low glycemic carbohydrates (look up a glycemic index or use apples) and good fat (olive oil for cooking, almonds or peanuts for snacking). This is good for the depressed person in two ways, that someone wants their company, and that they are getting food that helps level their blood sugar. Low blood sugar may be part fo the cause of the depression.

For basic information on hypoglycemia (low blood sugar), check out www.hufa.org.

Answer 7

Go to the fabric store and buy a couple of cut offs... then start sowing them together with a needle and thread finally put on a fantastic puppet show with characters named faberto and nania. the plot to the show has to be about happy rabbits living in burrows

Answer 8

If she hasnt seen a doctor she needs to take meds for her depression thats the best being there will help but she does need a mental heath doctor

Answer 9

when a person is depressed, he/she feels like no one cares, even though the opposite is obvious. so, don't give up on your sister. maybe she does'nt act like it, but she needs your love now more than anything. a sugesstion, take a yoga class together. no body is better than a sister.

Answer 10

Try to show her that anyone goes through this kind of trubbles and that she has to go on... try not to leave her alone and to make her laugh... still, if this goes on for a long time, I suggest seing a doctor.