My Maid of honor told me last night that she is pregnant with her 2nd child. When pregnant with her first she got big fast...Last week we had our fittings,and the women fitting us said remember that these dresses can be taken in but not taken out! When my maid of honor tried hers it was a lil snug..we thought she had just gained a couple pounds but now that we know she is pregnant.. i know she will never fit into her dress in 2 months for the wedding...she is in denial..as always she thinks she will stay" skinny" I would try to order her another dress but it is not in our budget or hers..she doesn't work. I don't know what else to do.... Also she has been very frustrating during this whole wedding planning....She is one of those friends who has to always be in the spot light, and is trying to make my wedding about her...for example my bacherlette party..she made a guest list of all her friends that i don't talk to..and people she knows but i don't...what do i do??
2006-07-10 00:54:51 · 19 answers · asked by amyann 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think a couple of you got the wrong idea from my question...My maid of honor is one of my best friends... so by no mean do i not like her... i just don't like some of the things she does some times...my question is focused on what to do about the situation with her being pregnant, and my wedding being only 2 months away! I'm asking what my other options are...
2006-07-10 01:19:44 · update #1
update: I talked to her yesterday, and she asked to not have the maid of honor responsiblities, but to be able to dance with the best man when it's time for the maid of honor and best man to dance...I explained that we could try to work something out, but if her dress doesn't fit then she would have to not stand up in the weding party, and she wold just be an honored guest.....she' is still in denial about gaining weight but our next dress fitting is in a week and we will see then!
2006-07-10 23:26:18 · update #2
Oh my.. you've got yourself a sticky situation.. In all honesty, she probably should try to find a way to get another dress.. A lot can happen to the tummy in 2 mths.. Try to talk to her.. I'd hate for you to be in such a bind at the last minute when *ding* the dress doesn't fit.. If she doesn't do something, she may just have to resign.. Good Luck :)
2006-07-10 16:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Pregnant Maid Of Honor Dresses
2016-12-14 20:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her and see what she wants to do about all this. It's not your responsibility to get her dress, nor is it your fault she's pregnant, so fixing the dress situation is up to her. As far as options besides getting a new dress, it kind of depends on the dress style and the style of your wedding, but here's what I think. You can see if the store can order extra fabric from the manufacturer. They might be able to add in a panel of fabric (think of an upside-down V) to the skirt - this would work best if it's an empire-waist. Another option is taking part of the dress and making it into just a top or just a bottom and finding another piece to match to make a two-piece dress or a top/skirt combo. They don't have to be exactly the same material or color - you could add black or white, or a metallic, or a coordinating color or print. Since she is your Maid of Honor, it won't be a big deal for her to be dressed a little differently than the bridesmaids; she'll just stand out a little, which it seems like she'd be OK with, and it fits with her role. You could also try finding another dress, not necessarily a bridesmaid's dress; or check places like eBay for something similar but cheaper. Good luck!
2006-07-10 14:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by KrisD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, in your maid of honour's defense, she invited people she knew to your bacholorette because that meant there were even more people there to celebrate with you. She probably is new at this so thought it a good idea to invite as many fun people as possible and who better than her own friends?
As for the dress, reality is that whether it's in your budgets or not you have to get a new dress. Of course you won't be able to do this without going to another fitting in about a month when the REALITY of her weight gain can't be denied. Schedule another fitting, when she goes and the dress is even more snug you have to address it right there. Her being pregnant is a wonderful blessing not a burden on you or your wedding so make sure it doesn't come across that way.
Honesty is the best policy. Your dress isn't going to fit. We need to decide what we are going to do. It seems important now but you honestly won't look back and care what she wore, but you'll remember how you dealt with it, how she did and what a wonderful day you had.
2006-07-10 01:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you'll have to scrape up the money for a new dress. You don't have to get the same dress, and perhaps something not as expensive. A two piece ensemble with a flowy top would probably work best. I know you probably want all your bridesmaids to be wearing the same thing but if she doesn't fit into her dress at that point, then you'll have to do some emergency shopping. Also remember every pregnancy is different. She might not balloon early this time. Two to three months is really early to be showing to terribly. Just be prepared to go shopping again a few weeks before the wedding. Go for store bought things instead of tailored. It'll save you some money.
2006-07-10 01:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is okay for her to be pregnant. You just need to plan for her dress. Get her a bigger size or ask to wait until a little before the wedding to get a size. I was pregnant for my best friends wedding and had the same problem. I did get big fast and wish that I would have done something differently. Talk to her about your concerns and tell her that you aren't trying to be mean but really want your wedding to be perfect and that includes her dress. If she is a true friend she will understand and not be difficult.
As for the pre-wedding activities. Sit her down and tell her your feelings about everything. The more honest you are the better you will feel about it. Don't let her control them. Make it your day...that is what they are supposed to be..FOR YOU! Tell her how you feel and hopefully she will come around and be understanding and change some of her ways.
2006-07-10 02:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a wedding last year and I was pregnant. The bride, myself and another maid were all pregnant. The one girl just got pregnant once the dresses were order too. But because she was on the heavy side the dress was able to be altered to fit her for the wedding. As far as the other stuff...maybe she feels alittle jealous. One never knows what the other is thinking. Are you comfortable enough to talk to her about it? Ask her? If she is your good friend she should understand.
2006-07-10 03:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my bridesmaids got pregnant after ordering the dresses and was 5 months pregnant at the wedding. She made some small adjustments to the dress using elastic in the same colour. Could she have a bit of elastic put in the sides where you wouldn't notice? Or replace a zipper with lace up at the back? Or put a panel of fabric in the front? Go to a seamstress and get opinions from her. I'm sure they do that kind of thing all the time. As for the rest of the stuff, I would just ignore it until it gets out of hand, then politely, but firmly confront her.
2006-07-10 03:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by jwelsh79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the dress shop and see if a maternity size dress is available in the color and similar style. If the style isn't a match the color will do...especially since she's the maid of honor it won't be weird if her dress is slightly different. The maternity dress will fit her tummy while still looking flattering to the rest of her body that may not be growing as rapidly. Order the dress immediately (bigger than she normally would WANT to order) so that it can be altered in time for the wedding.
2006-07-10 02:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by lil_miss_education 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good tailor or seamstress can add panels on the sides of the dress to make it fit. She won't look like the other girls (being pregnant) no matter how the dress is altered anyway so just have her fix it in the week before the wedding. You just have to roll with it. NO big deal.
2006-07-10 02:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by logical_centrist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your Maid-of-Honor need to go shopping. Find a dress that has an empire waist and that also comes in the same color as the rest of the bridesmaids' dresses. The raised waist will give her plenty of room to grow. You can also check out Dreams by Renee. They have some absolutely gorgeous dresses and are able to do custom work if needed.
http://www.dreamsbyreneebridal.com
Good luck!
2006-07-10 05:54:59 · answer #11 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋