we've been going out for a year and he loves me so much but still i know i cant trust him because he have lied many times and cheated on me once. i do love him and i forgive him but i'm tired of all the things he have been doing. i've given him many chances but he still failed me. i dont want to expect anything from him anymore. now i want a breakup but he is really holding on.he doesnt want to let me go. he's obssesed i may say...he said he will wait till we were like before.he said he'll change but i've heard those words many times before. i dont want to hurt him but how can i tell him that i just dont wanna get hurt anymore.now were still seeing each other pretending nothing happened but im still cold with him. i gave him one week as a chance to prove himself but i dont know what to decide. pls help me.
2006-07-10 00:51:42 · 15 answers · asked by vocalistah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a firm believer in cutting ties cold turkey for a successful breakup. Worst case, move away and start over without him.
2006-07-10 00:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Maggie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, write him a letter explaining all you have said in your question. Of course be as nice and kind as you can, but you must be firm. Close the letter by saying you will meet him for dinner or some other public type place for a final personal meeting as you have too much respect for him to let it end by letter. Let him know that you don't mean to hurt him, but he must realize that you have been hurting for some time now...you are physically and mentally drained and you must move on. Ask him that if he has ever truly loved you to please respect your feelings and let you go on with your life. This is not easy for you but you have made the decision that you believe is right for you. Remember...you must be firm. If you meet and he began to get nasty or unruly, tell him you will leave immediately. By the way let someone know(who you can depend on) your plans and have them drop you off and be a phone call away to come and pick you up. You cannot be friends right away...maybe after enough time has passed and you are positive it can be only that as far as he is concerned.
The important thing here is that it must be done and you cannot put it off.
Good luck and keep safe!
2006-07-10 01:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
breaking apart with someone will always go away one or the different damage. even no matter if it truly is mutual, failed relationships will always go away some kind of soreness in varies ranges. there is no way round this. you're definetly going to smash his thoughts, his pride, and his ego. make positive you do it in individual in spite of the indisputable fact that. a minimum of it's going to be a great way of doing it vs. e mail or textual content. do not furnish to be his chum after breaking apart with him. go away that determination to him. (it truly is that if being acquaintances is an determination for you). Be instantly up and promises him the reason behind the chop up. Be sympathetic and pay interest if he speaks. i'm hoping each and everything is going on your pick~
2016-11-30 23:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by faes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's certainly not going to be easy. It's almost like being addicted to something. You can't just quit cold-turkey. Start making plans with your friends more. This way you can slowly distance yourself from him and you won't have (as much) time to argue about your feelings. Spending time with your friends will also help you forget about how sad he is. It's going to be hard but you can't worry about his feelings right now. Take care of your heart!!
Good luck!!
2006-07-10 01:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by Bully513 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him sorry, but you have no intentions of staying with a liar and a cheater. If he cannot accept that then you will be forced to add "possessiveness with stalker tendancies" to your list of things that pertain to him. Pretending nothing happened is the worse thing you could do.
2006-07-10 01:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two Words: Restraining Order. Good luck.
2006-07-10 01:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by thatwench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor guy. Get him to join the men's groups on Yahoo so as he has some support.
I spose honey, you just have to do it slowly. Be nice to him for there's nothing surer than that someone will do it to you. If you break him in peices then that's what you'll get.
2006-07-10 00:56:43 · answer #7 · answered by welcome_to_how_things_will_be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a control freak and i've been seeing alot of this lately!! if he cheated on you and you never cheated on him then just leave him!! you say you don't want to hurt him but look at all the pain he's putting you through. he will become abusive if you stay with him. leave now, is the best advice and stop worrying about his feelings cause he wasn't worried about yours when he cheated on you!!!
2006-07-10 00:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there & you are in a dangerous situation-REPEAT dangerous. Break off-no games-no contact-no phone calls ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT! Stick very close to family/friends-VERY CLOSE! When you say, "I will be here/there certain time", stick to it & have someone watching out for you;try not to be alone away from work, etc.
2006-07-10 00:56:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you the way you want to be loved. What kind of love does a person have who cheats. Its quite obviously he doesn't know what love is and just can't stand to lose.
2006-07-10 00:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋