for instance she say she doesn't know if she's in love with me,she doesn't know if she wants to be with me and she doesn't know if she wants to marry me.
Remember we have been together for eight years and we're not married.
2006-07-10 00:27:52 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
unfortunately there's nothing you can really do. i would suggest you give her and yourself a break.... give her some time to miss you (coz i think she takes you for granted now), give yourself some time to think about what you may need. stay with your parents for a week or 2, or your friends.. or best, go away on a holiday with some friends.. and see how you feel after that? see whether she has valued you enough? see whether it's really right for you both to still keep going?
good luck
2006-07-10 00:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay! Well for starters, you need to ask yourself if there was ever a time when she did want to MARRY you! Did she EVER say that she loved you? Well, if you can answer yes to those questions then the problem might be that you waited to late. She probably wanted you to ask her a long time ago! She probably resents the fact that you didn't MAKE IT happen. I am in a similar situation and I can tell you that he waited way too long. He spoke of marriage but he never actually made it happen. Did you ever try to get a marriage license. Eight years is a very long time. She probably thinks that you really didn't know if she was the one that you really wanted. Under those curcumstances, she probably doesn't love you. My suggestion to you is that you show her some true romance. Be spontaneous and shocking! Do something for her that you normally wouldn't. Bring back the sparks. It might not be too late.The housework and compliments don't really mean anything anymore! Work it ouuuttttttt!!!
2006-07-10 07:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by meme1972 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she has issues. So you need to sit her down and have a long talk with her and find out what is making her so unhappy, or maybe she is talking or seeing someone else on the side and she don't know how to tell you that she dont want to be with u anymore. So just sit her down and ask her what the problem is... At least you help do stuff around the house.. lol hope this helps you out
2006-07-10 07:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sign of what life in the future will be like with her. The bottom line is, she is not going to change. At this stage of the relationship it might be wise to have a trial separation.
I have seen so many friends marry thinking they will change their partner, it has never happened. I know you have invested eight years in this relationship, that's a long time.
You need to ask yourself, this kind of relationship forever, so start afresh?
2006-07-10 07:33:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey this is the same question well do u think she's cheating..it sounds like she's irratated with you..I mean of course I dont know the whole story U need to tell her how u feel and give her an ultimatum..or like I said call me
2006-07-10 07:32:34 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run man run don't look back , you are behaving like a slave , no one want to make a slave her mate or partner , she is not for you , go away , before you loose your int rest in so many thing and experience yet to have , At least run from this place . Good luck .
2006-07-10 07:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a feminazi, and i believe men and women both
equally deserve happiness. I would leave her if I was you
you do not deserve to be treated this way. There are SOOOO
many women out there that want to be treated like this...
many of us are waiting, don't waste it on someone who
doesnt want it and can't appreciate it. She should be
ashamed of herself. It may be hard but you need someone
who will love you back and give back to you.
Good luck to you we are out there!
2006-07-10 07:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it`s not about doing the housework ,maybe she felt that your life together is empty ...no romance ...no passion...it`s normal after 8 years you should work on your relation to make it successful , take her somewhere special on the weekend try to spoil her.
Talk with her try to know why she dosen`t love you any more ,maybe she`s afraid of getting married!?
2006-07-10 07:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure sounds to me like she just is not in love with you. If she was then she sure would be a lot nicer and there would not be any doubts about her feelings. Have a good talk with her. Maybe it is time to move on.
2006-07-10 07:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sunflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's doing it on purpose to get those things out of you. She is using you. Please take the "kick me" sign off your back and move on. Otherwise, you will be putting all of your time and energy into something that will never return the effort.
2006-07-10 07:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋