please help me I need an advice?

Question

This is a kind of a very wierd problem but it's true that my father is a real jerk he yells at me everytime he returns home from office. Even though I have never done bad in my studies he keeps saying he wanna quit his job, and the reason because he wants to have fun like a kid he keeps yelling at me that If I quit my studies then life won't be so boaring for him and everytime I make a mistake he yells at me thatthat I should quit liveng in his house and when I do quit living with him he says that he won't provide me any money for my studies
The thing is that he treat's me as if I were picked from the street and was a total waste of his time and money.


Please give me an advice if possible could you tell me where i could live own my own and continue my studies or just a job so I could live in peace

Answer 1

Well if your 18 then get a job and see about financial aid(if its college your talking about)..it will be more difficult for u,but u wouldn't have to put up with your father's abuse!!!Sounds like he needs medicine or something!!!!Your father sounds like a very unhappy person...and it also sounds like he's taking all his frustration out on u!!!He needs help!!!So if your of age i would find a good job that pays really well and get out of there!
(also if your going to college find out or ask them about grants,scholarships, and stuff for school)That would help u out a lot(moneywise)

Answer 2

stay away as far as you can. been there don't that. I am a mother now. when I was young, I had the same problems. I was married 35 years until my husband died. I still don't talk to my parents. if my husband where alive we would be married 38 years. I married a wonderful man. how old are you? when you can find a job, save money and move out. no matter what you do, he will find fault. I could not please my parents either. just pray and stay away. good luck

Answer 3

first things first the hardest thing you can do is tell him how you feel and how his actions make you feel.1.listen then think .2.it sounds like hes trying to teach you how to be responsible but not teaching you the right way.think about it did his dad do the same thing to him? where is he getting his attitude from? where did he learn it? 3.try not to talk to him as soon as he gets home(he is tired) 4.don't go to bed having unsolved ideas or plans.5.he is still your father and you have to respect him.

Answer 4

Why don't you get a part-time job? That way you will be at school, then at work...and you be avoiding alot of contact with your Dad....AND making extra money. Maybe he's stressed at work and taking it out on you. But I'll bet you're sucking him dry! Don't be a leach!

Answer 5

sounds like your dad is having a midlife crisis and he's taking the blame out on you .....cause he has to work to pay for your studies.. he wishes he was footloose and fancy free.. ....midlife crisis... he needs someone to tell him to pull his head in and find another way to vent his anger.. he has real issues he needs to sort out .. whats your mum doing about all this??? talk to her.. try and find a way to solve things together.Don't give up your dream cause your dads a cranky old coot .

Answer 6

my dad acted the same last year,the reason was I always confronted him but now I have accepted him the way he is and we haven't had a fight for a long time( I am 17).I don't know your age,if you mention it you will have better answers.
I will add your question to my watch-list.

Answer 7

i really think ure farther is an *** hole and someone who needs to chill ure farther is kinda right on something though......its not good to always be in the books because u will be stress like ure farther is and determine a child hood

Answer 8

well so far as ihave guessed abt you it seems you might have been rude to ur dad sometimes..sometimes wat happend they they expect so many things like respect n good behaviour n such stuff from their kids as they are your parents and they do have right as well to do so but you shud try to be friendly with ur dad..all he is doing is just to grab ur attention n as he says quit ur study it means he wants u to ponder abt something and then he says if u quit he wont provide u mony and other things it shows he is afraid n he closes way of ur leaving.infact he wants some improvment in ur personality and then he doesn't want to loose you by sending u away...try to get close to him n try to know wat he wants...he might be frustrated from his life bcoz of someother isssues it cant be you..if it will work thats wonderful...if no then i can suggest you some place cheaper to live and can offer u a job but age matters as well....so try first one ...i wish u good luck....and i corss my fingers crossed so it shud work otherwise ur welcome to me anytime i can help u in job

Answer 9

Your age will make the difference. Other relatives should provide shelter.

Answer 10

You forgot to write here how old you are. I would have a talk with him and let him know exactly how I feel when he talks to you like this.