How 2 make my mother happy?

Question

My mom grew up in poverty.When young,she worked hard 2 earn money so that her brothers and sisters can get proper education.When she married, it was not exactly a happy marriage but she held on for the sake of me & my brother. My father died 10 years back & she had to work again after a gap of 25 years.I became an engineer and my brother a doctor because of her hard work. i had a love marriage 3 years ago,not exactly against her wishes but she was not exactly happy with it either.Now, after a big fight, my wife has walked out of my home.and my wife has flatly refused to try to reconcile.
my mom, in her old age, has to witness all this. She is upset all day. I WANT 2 MAKE HER HAPPY, BRING SOME CHEER IN HER LIFE. HOW DO I DO THAT. PLEASE ADVICE, PLEASE HELP ME.

Answer 1

See, Becoz your mom had hard worked thats y u got that position and due to this u go t a good life partner. Between ur mom and ur wife u r common . If u want every thing will be ok. Apko apni wife ko vishwas karvana hoga ki aap usse bahut attach hai aur mummy ko es baat ka vishwas dilao ki aap jo bhi ho aaj unki wajah se ho. apko apne bete aur husband ka role achhi tarah se ada karna hoga to ye sab theek ho jayega. Becoz mother wants his son respect her , love her and prior her than others and same wants wife from her husband. ok

Answer 2

Sorry, I'm not sure I understand. Was it a love marriage or an infatuation marriage. Love is self sacrificing; it doesn't walk out. If you were abusive, that would be another matter. Were you abusive during the big fight? Do you get drunk...? Sorry. You could be a much better person than I am. I don't want answers, just "thinking out loud". If you were, change your ways.
Although your mom didn't like your marriage innitially, I imagine after three years she probably loved your wife. You might be suffering from the break up, but I guess that's what is bothering your mom too.
If your wife is in the wrong, take your mom on a relaxing vacation of her choice as a birthday or holiday treat.
If your wife is right, change your ways and prove yourself. Ex If you don't clean the house, clean it, video yourself cleaning and send her video or online invite to view it. If you drink...find something better to do like go to the library or do volunteer work...tell your wife where you are and maybe one day she'll be willing to meet you. I think a reunion would make your mom happy. Good luck.
As for your mom, I'm sure she's proud of you even if she isn't quite happy with the situation. I hope you can also make her happy. Again, good luck.

Answer 3

Start by sending her a large fancy(two dozen or so roses) bouquet of flowers. Not the kind you get at the grocery store. Put a nice note in it(I love you mom...thanks for being so special). Have them delivered. Then call her every day or so, and begin to see her on a regular basis. Take her to diner at least twice or three times a month. Take her to some other outing..a show, walk, picnic or any other thing she might like. Buy her a special dress for your special outing. In other words start participating in her life. Of course I don't mean smother her...but be around...take care of her...let her know by your actions(not just words) that she really is special and that you love her.
In most cases moms do not require much to make them happy. If you are serious...use the above notes as a guide and get to work. After she is gone...it will be too late.

Answer 4

it seems like your wife has walked out on you because you're giving your mum all the respect (very rare and very good) and nothing to your wife. maybe you should give your wife and yourself some breathing space...

and in the meanwhile, take your mum away somewhere for a holiday.. where has she always dreamed of going, what has she always wanted to do? you're her son, you must know at least one thing... take her, make her do it. she won't live forever, so fulfil her dreams the way she's done for you...

and when you get back, try to talk to your wife again with a clean, fresh mind. tell her that you respect your mum for her sacrifices, and she will have to as well. BUT, you have to promise your wife that you will support her AS WELL....

good luck!

Answer 5

Don't sacrifise your love to your wife for your mom and the same to your wife.
If you are a successful engineer you have already made her happy,if you don't think it is enough buy her some flowers and take her to a resturaunt with the whole family.
If your wife refuses to reconcile explain how important your mother is for you,and tell her she(your wife) means a world to you.
good luck dude

Answer 6

I think u need to send her on a pilgrimage. You need to find a place to stay where she lives in the same complex but u guys live in different houses. Like different floors of a building maybe.

That way you can visit her whenever you want and stay next door and your wife will have her privacy. Think about it, it might be eating her that she is the cause of grief in your life. I think you first need to sit down and talk with her to get her perspective as well.

Best of luck.

Answer 7

You have an amazing mother and you are blessed enough to have her still. All you can do is to be with her as much as possible. Love her, care for her and show her how much you appreciate having her as a mother. In little ways, you will make her happy. Time, I think is a very good gift you can give her. She has not much of those left, so do that.

Answer 8

Your mum,Bless her, is wiser than you think. She is concerned about your happiness. You could give her a hug with some roses, tell her how much you love an appreciate her. Send her for a short vacation with one of her friends etc. Try to get her enrolled in a club for her age group they do some amazing things sometimes.

Answer 9

You don't say why your wife and mother don't get along. It's really hard to advise you with such little information.
I really doubt that such a fine woman would expect anything from you except your love.
I'm sorry that the women in your life don't get along. It must make it difficult for you being stuck in the middle.

Answer 10

Mum is everybodies first world..........the rest came later.....So,whatever it is you should not leave your lonely mom alone.........Speak to your wife.......explain the situation and what you really think..........
Console your mom in a good manner together with your wife........
She raised you with all her live and sacrificed alot for your sake.....understand this and look after your mom until she dies......
If your wife refuses to accecpt this, just remember that you wife has her family to look after her but your mom has no one........
Make the correct move and decision.........

Good Luck!!!