If someone is upset, what can you do to help them move on so to speak, or feel better?

Question

I need long paragraph explaination.This is an investigation(research). My teacher wanted us to research about it. so please give me complete informations.u can also tell me about how to change into good mood from bad mood? thanks a lot

Answer 1

"Feeling" better is an active decision on the part of the attitude holder. People decide for themselves what will make them happy or not. No external force can really make someone change a mood or an attitude.

For example: in college we did an experiment in sex education and discovered that lips on lips feel like lips. We had a number of volunteers that had to determine who they were kissing (M or F) while blindfolded, the subjective quality of the kiss and their reaction to the discovery of whom they were kissing after they discovered the truth. The men were all shaved cleanly and no person wore any cologne. They were separated by a panel and could kiss any way they wish, but no hands. We randomly had 30 men and 30 women kiss each other in a controlled environment. They knew they had a 50/50 chance of kissing the same sex and did know that a statistically constant part of the volunteers were gay (i.e. constant with the student population). We randomly had all 60 subjects kiss each other and rate the kiss after each period. Each subject only kissed three to five people so that the sense recall was stark.

We found that the subjects could not tell whether they were kissing another male or female, gay or straight person. It was only after we identified the kissee that the kisser became overtly upset or aroused or conflicted by his or her own emotional preconceptions. With some subjects we had so much conflict that before they left we had to council them about their feelings toward that kiss with the same sex subject. They simply didn’t understand how they could have “liked” it. The kiss itself was neutral the idea behind it was what made you feel good or bad about it.

This might also help. You must have had an occasion to be in a bad mood. Things just aren’t going right. Then your best friend calls you for help with a problem that is much greater than yours. You rush over and with concern and heartfelt camaraderie poke and cajole and help your friend see the light and come to a good conclusion. You leave feeling much better about everything. Your problems are still there, you just feel better because you have been able to help a friend. What changed? Only your attitude…

Answer 2

hi my friend!
im not very proper in english but ill try my best to tell u about it.
when some 1 is sad about something she/he mostly wanna be alone ,and if u start advicing her ,she will definitly become more sad ,and just she wanna leave the situation!my opinion is: if we got that some 1 is upset we shouldnt tell her, oh why ur upset, wht happend,! this makes the person feel even worst, i think we shud change the enviroment and use alittle bit trick in behaving with her, just laugh,and do alittle bit of funny things. slowly slowly if ur clever enough u can change her mood, or even forget about the sad thing for a short time!
ppl r diffrent u have to recognize how to behave at this time with diffrent ppl.
some 1 like when she is sad/u dont ask her the reason.
some 1 like when she is sad u try to change the enviroment and make her laugh.
some 1 like when she is sad u start talking about the problem ,and if you could solve it.
it depends on ppl & the policy thet u have in solving the problem!

Answer 3

To help someone, you can let them talk to you or offer for them to go take a walk or a shower, depending on what their personalities are like. Go to the movies so they can cool off or think, whatever works for them.
To change into good mood from bad mood, the same. You can also play music or tell an inside joke that will make them smile.

Answer 4

Initially, the best thing you can do for them is listen and be patient. They may need to go over things a few times to get things straight and also to help get over the hurt. For most things, time should take care of it. If not, you should gently mention to the person that perhaps they should speak to someone else (a professional counselor or a support group) to assist them in getting through the process. It is not good nor healthy to linger in a negative place for too long, but it also depends upon how major the upset might be as to that length of time.

Answer 5

i listen to music that is either happy or fits my mood. Either it makes me forget my sorrows or it builds them up letting me know it all and letting myself know what is wrong, until i can somehow get rid of them by it. music just makes me feel a lot better.
I dont like it when ppl stick around when ur sad/crying. especially if they have nothing to do with it. when they ask you: whats wrong? many ppl just do it as a pretend. they dont really care. i dont like it when ppl pretend to be nice, to like me or anyone else. so when im in a bad mood i prefer to say it to maybe my best friend or a very good friend, who i am sure wont go blabbering it on or who i know really does care. I sometimes want to get rid of my sorrows by telling them all to someone who is ready to listen and who wont interrupt until you're done. then they try giving solutions, which come from the REAL heart, not just from a pretend heart.
I also change my mood when someone tells a joke. i think to myself: girl, you're making it seem as if you dont take anything serious, as if a joke can make the world better. But that is just the way it is. I have to laugh and that makes me feel loads better. And often ppl WANT to get you smile, and dont really care that you can easily forget things.

I hope this helped! Good luck with your research! :)
btw the music part reminds me of the song by sarah connor: music is the key! try listening to it, it describes the whole thing.

Answer 6

Well, I just simply ignore the situation. None of those negative reactions. If in case I remember the situation, I pray, do my hobbies, or just merely go to bed and try to pray to get some sleep. After that, no more. Coz my mind's clear and that's the time I got the best solution. Just think positive and everything will be in it's proper order again. Life must go on.

Answer 7

Okay ,I hope this will help you, my husband tends to go off when he is intoxicated..
So this is what I do,sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't;
First I slowly approach him, ask him how he's doing...
get him to talk about anything else...
I get him to move away from whatever is getting him mad..
I also get him to keep taking deep breaths...
stimulation also work for him, If I can I will get him to lie down ..keep talking to me about things that make him proud of who he is....
When he calmed down I will also put on soothing music to help him fall asleep.{p.s don't worry his anger is never directed @ me just someone else}

Now ; this is what I did for one of my co-workers who was upset I let her talk & talk out her anger..when she talked for about 20 minutes .. I asked her if she thought she was strong enough to let the boss know what had upset her..her answer was no..
but she had thanked me for listening to her..
the best thing to do is make sure they don't hurt you or themselves..let them talk about what is upsetting them..ask them if they can find a solution with or without your assistance..sometimes put on some dance music helps them to feel better.. for some ppl just going by the ocean makes them feel better.
hope this helped