a close friend has lost both parents within a space of a month, this is quite sad u know and i intend to send him a condolences card but i need the right words to say..let him know we have him in our prayers?
2006-07-09 23:44:36 · 19 answers · asked by nqosh 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
the 23rd Psalm is always helpful - "Yeah, though i walk through the valley of the shadow of death..." It is Jesus' Psalm describing his resurrection.
there is no death - just transition - but it is very, very difficult as you say and probably the most important thing you can do is just be there for this friend, help them when they ask, and let them know how much you love and care for them.
and that the parents are in a much better situation now back with God.
God Bless You too for being such a good friend.
2006-07-09 23:52:08 · answer #1 · answered by Kevin A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Rain
Author: William Watts
Listen to the rain as it falls ever so gently on the rooftops. The peace it always seems to bring. Like magic it dances making my mind drift to another place in time.
Away from all my worries, away from all my cares. I can hear a distant sound of thunder as a storm begins to near.
It’s so hard to believe at this moment the people in this world can be so cruel. So much hate inside our souls and minds. So much pain we cause one another.
Life can bring on so many feelings, some good and some bad. Makes you wonder why we would even want to feel anything at all.
Maybe we need to feel the pain so we don’t take pleasure for granted. Maybe we have to hate to understand love and compassion.
Listening to the rain is my escape from the aches and pains that we encounter in life. I feel it is Gods way of cleaning up our messes we make. The rain is my oasis, my little place to be alone and to get away from everything and everyone. Just to drift to a place in my mind that drowns out all the evil.
I often wonder why we are so quick to judge and yet it is so hard to forgive. How we are able to place ourselves at the top of the food chain but have so many more problems then any other beast on this existence.
We have squandered the only gift that keeps us apart from the other beast and that is knowledge.
This is why I listen to the rain; this is why I feel the need to escape from the world. People say that my problems wont go away if I go off and hide. Well maybe they are right. But in order to cope with all the stress and pain the world we live in has, I must take a break and listen to the rain.
End
2006-07-10 07:07:51 · answer #2 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is about all you can say. This is something that thereis no fix for, and no magical words to ease the pain. It has to come on its own.
You can, however, stay in contact and keep his spirits up , but the occurence of that may be few and far between right now.
I think i would ask my friend what he would want from me, what could I do for him, if anything??
If the answer is nothing, then leave it at that.
This is the most alone a person may ever feel. It goes deep. Perhpas the person who can reach your friend emotionally would be his sibling, or a friend that has been around for a very long time.
2006-07-10 06:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Fitchurg Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At a time like this there are no 'right words' you can say. The best thing you can do is let your friend know that you are there for him and that you care about him and will help in any way he needs. Good luck and my prayers are with him also.
2006-07-10 06:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by ctryhnny04 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a simple "I'm sorry for your loss" may work. if you want to put more feeling into it, just say what feels right. your friend will not really be paying 100% attention to what is said, but just telling him that you do feel sorry and that they will be in your prayers is enough, say it how you mean it, don't get all formal on the poor person, that to me was the worst when my grandmother passed... she was the closest to me my whole life, the whole formal bit isn't too comforting when you are grieveing.
2006-07-10 06:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by lady_necromantia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that you care and that you are there. Just hug him and ask him if he needs anything and tell him not to hesitate to call you. Also, assure him that the bible says to be absent from the body is to be present with the LORD. His parents are in paradise so encourage him to trust God and seek comfort in Him.
Just be your caring self and he'll be grateful you are available.
~Peace.
2006-07-10 07:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Action speaks louder than word!why send him a card when you can say condolence in PERSON? no amount of word you can say can match what you can SHOW.!
2006-07-10 07:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by cellm8te 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're here for you, body, sould and mind.
We pray for you and hope you can get through this difficult time of sadness and suffering.
If you need friends, we are here, come to us, we share in your grief.
My boyfriend lost his mum recently, and it was really hard to find the words to say to him - just let him know you are there, whatever he needs. I know what you are going through.
2006-07-10 06:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Krissyinthesun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best is to tell this person what is in your heart and how sad you are about their loss. It will more personal coming from you as opposed to getting words from someone else.
Let your heart speak to them.
2006-07-10 06:49:06 · answer #9 · answered by Gabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are no "right" words to say...just say how you feel...cause this is one of those times where only YOU can tell your friend what's in your heart...
For what's it's worth, my condolences also...
2006-07-10 06:51:14 · answer #10 · answered by jonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋