i have 3 children already the youngest 5 and eldest 17 my partner has 3 but are all grown up and left home. we plan to marry in 4 years time. and how do we get around the name problem that i my partner and baby have same name but my other youngest has a different one i dont want her to feel left out or different
2006-07-09 23:10:56 · 33 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm an older parent (adopted our younger child at the age of 43) and feel too old almost every other day but it's not all to do with age. You have enough experience to know what you are getting into and there are many happy children out there with older parents. Just think about what is best for your child-to-be and ignore the people here who are criticising you.
2006-07-09 23:44:58 · answer #1 · answered by Stammerman! 5 · 9⤊ 2⤋
First of all in 4 years you will be 47 not 43 and why in the world would you want more children when you will soon be having grandchildren? And what do your names have to do with any of it? I understand wanting children by your new husband but don't you think you have already been there done that and obviously he didn't stick around or you would not be getting remarried so in my opinion it is not a good idea to be thinking about it until you have said I do and you haven't so maybe you should think about it more and talk to your doctor first and not ask our advice it all depends on what your doctor thinks. Heck I wanted 10 kids and sometimes still think about having children because I love them so much but I am 47 and then I think again and I know I don't need anymore and the way things are today who wants to keep bringing more children into this ****. Anyway that is up to you and him but if you are not even married yet. I would not even be talking about it, a lot can happen in 4 years. Anyway that is just my stupid opinion.
2006-07-09 23:57:23 · answer #2 · answered by shywittty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur nether 2 old but the implications on ur health are the reason y u shouldn't. As much as u'd love 2 the best thing is 2 go 4 a health check at Doctor's. Eat healthy, get enough rest, take vitamins 2 build ya strength the better prepared ur body is the better ur body will deal with the pregnancy! Good Luck in whatever u decide!
2006-07-09 23:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by 13Special 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think age is a problem. Read this---- Demi Moore hasn't ruled out the posibilty of having one more child(her first) through her husband Ashton. She has already 3 from previous relationship with Bruce Willis.
But the problem is can u give ur children the best without compromising on any thing? U already have 3 and they are grown ups. Consider what will they think of u when u will pop out one more.
Think & then act.
2006-07-09 23:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would marry first, but then you would be 47. So yes, go for it, you are not too old, infact today they reported a woman having one at 62. With the youngest, can you hyphernate her name.
Lets say she is now Sally Smith and you are marrying Joe Jones, can't your youngest become Sally Smith-Jones ?? Just a thought, don't know about the legality, such as Ex Husband (sally's father)
Good Luck
2006-07-10 00:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by Freckles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
43 is not too young but why are you even considering this if the marriage is 4 years away? If you guys arent ready to marry yet why would you be ready to have a baby together which is a much bigger commitment emotionally, financially, and physically?
2006-07-09 23:14:21 · answer #6 · answered by cloud9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a baby - don't reckon 43 is too old, and why hold back because of the name problem - you may regret it later. If your daughter feels really left out then you could change her surname couldn't you?
2006-07-09 23:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The young one won't feel left out, just show her that you both love her and it will work out. As for another baby, I would ask a doctor, as age is a big factor in the baby's being born healthy and normal, are you prepared for the risk, I would say the risk are big at your age.
2006-07-09 23:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by fancyiam2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no look at that lady who was 63. is your youngests father still around? if not why not ask if she would like to change her name as well or you could give her a double-barrel name and ask your partner if he would do the same then you would all have the same name
2006-07-09 23:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by Scottish lass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you want to have another baby and if the conditions allow it then go for it .. a baby is always a bless ,isnt what they all say ? =D Oh.. and worrying about names in my opinion is a lil silly .. you are family now doesnt matter what their last names is .. we have the last names and names to identify ourselves because we r too many.. we dont have them to create problems in family =P
Good luck!!
2006-07-10 00:09:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋