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Question

at the end of the week i am seeing my boyfriend to break up with him. We both know this is happening and its his decision. The problem is i wanna see him so badly that i cant stop myself from going but i know that when i look at him i am going to cry and when i give him one last kiss i know that i wont want it to end. He says he cares about me and that he doesnt wanna hurt me and thats is why we have to break up. He says that he has treated his past girlfriens badly and cheated on them. I feel like he has change cuz he told me he wouldnt with me cuz he always has me at the back of his mind. Doesnt this show that he has changed? I have seen him every week for the past 9 months and i cant imagine not seeing him, speaking to him on the phone or recieving a text from him. I feel so lost without him and im just gonna keep wondering what he is doing etc, what is going on. How would you handle this?

Answer 1

you sayed i cant imagine not seeing him,well imagine it and then think about going out with some one new

Answer 2

He hasn't changed and he admitting that he wants to break up so that he doesn't hurt you like the ones before is an indication of that. You are mad about him and you can't be blamed, but it is better to stay away from him or else you Will hurt more by holding on to him. The best way to handle this is to call off the farewell meeting, there is no need for that, just tell him over the phone or by email that your relationship is a thing of the past and wish him the best, because seeing him for one last time to say good bye and to give him a long kiss etc..will only make the breakup more painful. Also after you break up with him don't listen to romantic songs for a while they will not help your heart forget. Which is better do you think to remain in this relationship and feel insecure and threatened with betrayal anytime and at any point? besides if he really loved you he will not wish to break up, and he will do anything he could to keep you. Be strong, have faith in yourself and sooner or later you will find someone else who will appreciate you more, this guy wants to move on to another relationship.

Answer 3

I'm very sorry to hear that ! It's really sad how the good times just fly away to the End destination.
No one can say it's easy to handle and I can't say I know how you feel but I'm sure you can get through this heavy moments.

Honestly, I'm not good at advice especially about relationships (well, I'm a guy!)...I'm just here for support.

One thing, in your last talk, never go back to who's right or wrong, don't throw the blame here and there. Just have a good time and tell yourself always: It's better now than later. I always say that I wrong relationship is like a cancer, the sooner is treated the better you're likely to survive. Think of what your learned over the past 9 months. While counting your mistakes , look for the sunny side and remember that you spent this time with someone who made you happy ..rather than walking alone in no where.

You might want to pick a book about divorce or relationships breakups..talk about it with closed ones... you started right and shared it with us.. , I hope the rest of the answers will solve the problem..

Sorry to keep you readers for long..

Good luck

Answer 4

Take guys at face value. When he says he's a cheating man, believe him. Tell him to keep your number in case he 'cures' his behavior. Keep in touch with him, but only occasionally, like once every three months. And don't put out for him. He's breaking up because he says he's not good enough for you. This is his 'coming out' as a Scumbag event. He will now expect that you know he's a Scumbag and will totally have no respect for you if you sleep with him after this.

Answer 5

If you have already decided (for definate) that its over theres no point in going as its only going to cause more heartache. However it will give you the opportunity to discuss the situation and who knows maybe you can find a solution - go and get those answers your looking for. If it still ends at least you will know why.

Answer 6

i went thru this with my boyfriend that i have now...we met up to say goodbye for one last time, and i asked him if this is really what he wanted...and he said that he thought so...and i said that if he lets me walk away its for good, and he kinda just stood there...so i left. about 2 days later i got a text from him, and we started being friends again. Just show him...your okay and your fine with it, be a lil emotional but not totally off the edge. maybe a tear or two, but when its time to go give him a hug and be okay. if your okay with it, it will drive him crazy. and dont be early to get there, be about 2 or 3 mins late...make sure he is waiting on you...not you waiting on him. it will make him think about what he is about to do. good luck! and remember if its supposed to happen in the long run it will! and if its not...there is someone ten times better out there for you!

Answer 7

I think a female should be at the front of his mind, but that is just me, And it sound like he has a new girlfriend, That is what happens during the summer. You have to get over it. move on, find another that would respect you.

Answer 8

If it is his decision to be free, you have no choice but to let him go.If it is true love it will work out, but don't sit at home and wait, get out and meet new people, you might even find that you like your freedom and he is not the one for you after all.

Answer 9

Yeah just break up you know.......ANd move on with your life if his a cheater then let him go he wont do you no good FInd someone else who is more deserving with your love

Answer 10

if he has cheated once he will cheat again, you will get over him, it will take time but you will, don't dwell on the facts go out and enjoy yourself, you will feel better quicker.