she is never around and she only calls when she needs something from me. she is into herself and her boyfriend and is never around for me and my sisters
2006-07-09 22:43:49 · 9 answers · asked by Nicole S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
By the time your mother realizes what she is missing, it will be too late. Just talk to her and ask her just like you asked us.
2006-07-09 22:45:38 · answer #1 · answered by skigod377 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, you must not judge your mother. If you expect her to be the perfect mother, this will cloud your acceptance of her. I know it is hard when something like this happens but you must respect your mothers wishes. She did this for a reason, maybe a reason that she can not share with you.
You say, "she is never around and only calls when she needs something". Do you go out of your way to call her? Or to be around her? I know that sounds kind of harsh but love is a two way street. Also, you must realize that mothers are HUMAN, they make mistakes and they may not realize it for a while.
Sometimes children feel like their mothers are just that "mothers". They forget that we do have feelings, wants, needs and desires. And sometimes these things don't include our children. This doesnt mean that we dont love our children or dont want to spend time with them. Sometimes we are just busy.
Your mother will come "around" when the time is right. Be patient. Always remember that she does love you even though she might not be showing it right now.
Be willing to be supportive to her wants and needs. That is what she needs from you right now.
I know you feel like she should make the first move but sometimes you have to do it. She may be on an emotional roller coaster right now and cant really think straight.
Lots of luck with your mom.
2006-07-10 07:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by dodiewayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about your feelings. How old is your mother? Also how old are you guys? Depends on all of this. As children we must realize that our parents have lives too. And if she had you guys at an early age and did a good job raising your guys, cut her a break. Believe me it is just a phase she is going through.
2006-07-10 13:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by monaboricua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the dame thing....I have forgiven her now after many years, But i will never forget it.....I don't bring it up and neither does she.........Just hang in there, she will find the right path someday.....
2006-07-10 08:43:49 · answer #4 · answered by Happy_Wheatland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and talk to her and explain how you feel make her realise how much she is hurting you.. hopefully that motherly instinct will kick in and she will really understand what she is missing out on.
2006-07-10 05:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by sera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
meet up with her on her own and talk to her about the situation hopefully she'll realise what shes missing.
2006-07-10 05:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you want FAMILY COUNSELING...get her to pay and it's ON, you guys can wail on her and eventually, who knows-maybe even forgive her for being human,
2006-07-10 05:52:32 · answer #7 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray so that she could wake-up from what she is doing! and that u would love her u need an inner healing course
2006-07-10 05:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by raflawy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to have a friend, be friendly. that simple
2006-07-10 05:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by lifejourney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋