hi there everyone. i was hoping that maybe one of you can help me out of this black hole that has suddenly pulled me deep...well, there's this guy and i see him all the time, but on saturday i went for a nite picnic and met him there and we spent great times together that night and the next day i went over to his place to make breakfast and we were really close together. but later on he told me that we ARE NOT in any relationship but we are friends...i mean i like him a lot and i dont know how to show it to him in order for him to understand. i know he likes me, but how can i push our sort of friendship into a real relationship??? please u all, help me>>>
2006-07-09 22:34:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is setting you up to be a "friend with benefits" at best. By telling you NOW that you are in a FRIENDS ONLY relationship, if something "Sexual" were to happen, he can honestly say, "hey, I told you in advance, THAT (the sex) was just a booty call" So, you should JUST BE FRIENDS and prove to him you are worth more and of more value, to him AND YOURSELF. Find another you want to date, Let this one go, if he comes BACK to you, showing advanced interest, BEFORE ANYTHING happens, you would have to clarify to him that you want MORE than a booty call and you are the kind of girl who he can take home to Mom. If he won't change the way he feels, or e maintains he just wants a friend, Then you have to realize HE is not the kind of GUY YOU should take home to YOUR mom! If you see him on OCCASION, show him you are a quality person, show him you are worth it and that you can live without him, he might just see that he CAN'T or doesn't want to live without YOU! But, DO NOT let yourself get trapped in a long booty call, where you are nothing but JUST THAT!
2006-07-09 22:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing that i know about men is that they do not like being presured into anyhting so whatever you do, do not pressure him into anyhting. just spend time doing stuff togetther like going to the movies going to dinner slowly but surely he will warm up to you and before you know you will be in a relationship. Good luck
2006-07-10 05:44:35 · answer #2 · answered by destiny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not in a relationship means pushing him will only push him away, so if he is a friend then keep it that way! if you are having sex then stop or you will get hurt! love roccks!
2006-07-10 05:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you u were only friends, what more you waiting for??? he seems to like ur company but don't try to pressure him or else he will just run away. most men do that when they are pressured
2006-07-10 05:56:03 · answer #4 · answered by messy_missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep spending time with him and love him like he is your boyfriend.
2006-07-10 05:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by real_pple_play_bball 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋