I have started dating and sleeping with a fabulous guy I've known for a couple of months. In a few weeks he's leaving the country to travel for four months. We've spoke about things and while he doesn't want to spend his time abroad missing me he doesn't want to let me go quite yet either. Making matters worse is the fact that he broke up with someone just before he met me.
Any opinions on what I should do?
2006-07-09 22:29:31 · 32 answers · asked by poppyfields 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He arranged this trip before we met and it's impossible for me to go with him at the moment.
2006-07-09 22:37:36 · update #1
You've only known him for a couple of months and a relationship for less. Let him go- neither of you give any promises. See how you both feel when he gets back. Your feelings are probably more intense than they would normally be as you know he is going away. another 4 months down the line, if he had stayed, and you might have split anyway.
"he doesn't want to let me go quite yet either." quite yet?? Have you thought how that sounds??
2006-07-09 23:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by fiona s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds bad! Well, in the first place i just got out of a quite long relationship with a guy that just left his girlfriend a week before we met each other, and to be quite honest, i think it is impossible for any one to not have feelings for his ex if he just came out of a relationship. And i've learned out of that now, stay away from guys that just came out of a relationship.But you're in this now, and we need a solution. Face facts, he is going to go, and you are going to stay behind, but you guys must make the decision are you gonna wait for each other, or are you just gonna leave things and see what happens when he comes back.... Dont know if you're a christian but i believe: "If its meant to be, God will find a way!!!!!!"
2006-07-09 22:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by bubbles!?! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he has had this trip booked for a long time you cant ask him not to go that will just make you seem very needy my boyfriend is in the army and it can sometimes be six months before i get to see him if it is meant to be it will but when he comes back anyway who's saying you wont find a more amazing bloke in that time that he is away
good look!
2006-07-10 06:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by chez_22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with drummer pack your bags and go with him, if you can't then you need to sit down and talk to him about the situation. Ask him if he wants you to be waiting for him when he gets back and if he says yes then make him also promise that he will be faithful to you. Then you both just have to wait for each other if you both are that committed. Four months isn't really long anyway it's only 12 weeks and you can always call each other and maybe e-mail. You wouldn't want to feel like you stopped him from going so i think you just need to be patient for him.
2006-07-09 22:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder, why his trip SO impotrant than being with you? Are you sure he's not playing around? I guess he's braking up a little bit too much last time, don't you think? By doing that he only shows that he hasn't have any feeling for any of you, dummby... He should suffer, not you!
P.S. As an reminder, CUT HIS BALLS OFF! Or find his ex-girlfriend and make him repay...
2006-07-09 23:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by clovisfleischhund 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a serial dater. He won't let you go until he finds someone else because he can't be alone. Go out, have fun, flirt with guys and meet you a nice one. Keep in touch with this guy, because he doesn't sound all bad, but end the romantic relationship the minute he gets on that plane.
2006-07-09 22:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Toadstoolie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey girlie, I understand entirely, my new fella is moving in a month as well. I think your best bet is to keep seeing eachother, but don't entirely limit yourself either while he is gone. Date a bit if you feel like it, or don't. And if it is meant to be when he gets back, it will be. In a situation like this, fate is about the only thing you can really rely on.
2006-07-09 22:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by Chloe McIntosh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its meant to be it will happen !
Wish him well and keep in touch, worrying about it wont improve the situation and giving him a guilt trip will only drive him away quicker.
Its perhaps a once in a lifetime oppertunity for him so wish him well and tell him that you'll be thinking of him, bet that makes him think of you to !
Good luck
2006-07-09 22:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by willw8andc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, relax. There will come a time when you don't even remember his name. There's plenty out there for you. If he's so "fabulous" why is he leaving?
How about if we date, then sleep together then I'll leave for six months. Would you be happy with that?
Set higher standards for yourself. You're probably worth it.
J
2006-07-09 22:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by filmjeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has planned his trip for some time so the right thing to do would be to let him go and do it, if you try and stop him from going you may risk him resenting you for not allowing him to follow his dream. If he wants you to go with him then go, but if you can't afford to go then the only option is to let him go and see what happens when he comes back. Don't pine for him while he is away, let him know that you will also be out having fun with your friends, and do it!
2006-07-09 22:37:23 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋