See the thing is i dated this guy for 3 years.In the last year or so things started going down hill.In March this year i broke up with him for the simple reason that i thing that he didn't care anymore.He also started getting abusive it was more verbule and mentally.
Well after about 2 weeks he phone's me to tell me that his gonna be a dad.I was torn up...
Now after about two months of seperation i feel deppressed, when im with a guy i don't
feel for them the way i felt for him.And it is starting to afeck my personal life.
What can i do to get rid of this feelings?
2006-07-09 22:05:45 · 15 answers · asked by Dragongirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best advice is to just go out and do other things, date other guys and have fun. Its going to be hard to get rid of your feelings for him. In fact sometimes its going to seem dam near impossible. The only thing you can do is start to move on. Eventually it Will get better but not over night. Cry a little, laugh a little and cry some more. Do things with friends. Go out and get hammered and have a safe, fun drunken girls night out. It really sucks that he was a little harsh with things and the fact that he was inconsiderate enough to call you and tell you something like that should show you that you deserve better. Go on girl let your hair down. Its your time now use it to your full advantage.
Take care of yourself and hope things heal faster than you anticipate.
2006-07-09 22:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie, unfortunately the only thing you can do is wait it out. You're going to feel bad for a while, three years is a long time to be involved with anyone. For what it's worth I think you did exactly right to walk away from someone who doesn't love you the way you want to be loved. I admire the courage that it took. You're going to be just fine.
For now you might want to stay out of relationships, get involved in other parts of life. Go back to school, get a brand new hair cut, spend a day with the girls (do an at home beauty party), go on a trip with a good friend, take cooking classes in the evening....
The important thing is to stay busy doing something positive that makes you feel good. Keep in mind that you ended the relationship to move on to something better, trust that it will come along. =)
2006-07-10 05:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Khael 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were with this guy for 3 years. Don't expect to just jump on the dating bandwagon and feel the same way. Thank GOD you don't feel the same way, after all, this other guy was abusive. You don't need that again!
What you need now is to stay busy. So busy you don't have time to even consider dating. Take up volunteer work. Take up hiking, or skating, or running. Go to the gym. Join a book club, spend time at the library researching the secret meaning behind "Charlotte's Web". Whatever you need to do, do it. Avoid the meat market bars and clubs. Focus on YOU, and forget about him. You are worth the investment of time. Take it.
2006-07-10 05:12:54 · answer #3 · answered by JPsSilentButDeadly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having the same thing at the moment... SO I feel your pain!!! I broke up with a guy a month ago... and I have a new bf, but i don't feel the same about him and I am not sure I will be able to, but I guess It's just a matter of habit as well, we went out for 2 years, you went out for 3.. As we are so used to each, it's like you know everything about each other, you went trough so much together.. It will just take some time to get used to someone else now.. At least I hope so :)
Moreover maybe we r just dating wrong guys? :)
2006-07-10 05:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over him ... he's going to be a dad two weeks after breaking up with you??! And you've been with him 3 years??! And with you being torn up, I'm assuming you are not the mother meaning he HAD to have 1) been cheating on you to be a dad so quickly, 2) he didn't care about you as much as you (think) he did so he screwed the first thing that came along ....
Honey, you deserve better than that ...
Just know that and hopefully you will actually realize it and believe it and moving on will be so much easier
2006-07-10 05:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by axiomgeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you did the right thing by getting rid of that guy. You deserve better then the way he was treating you sweetie! Which brings me to getting rid of those feelings.... you will start to feel better once you really realize that you deserve better and that you are special! You may never feel the same way with any other guy as you did him, One day you will feel even closer and happier with someone else then you ever did him. You was with him for 3 years so it will take some time to get over it. Like I said it starts with you knowing really knowing that you are special and deserve to be cherished. Don't be hard on your self.
2006-07-10 05:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by Fantasy Kel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you can do is give it time! you with that guy for a long time. so it's going to take you ages to get over him. so for now forget about looking for llove just be happy making new friends. then if one of those friendships blossoms to romance that is a welcome bonus..
my guess is it will take you at least 18 months before your realy ready to start serious dating again. So just go out have fun and forget he ever existed remeber it's his loss.
remeber there are plenty of us good guys out there to make up for the jerks.
try taking a holiday or moving away from the area this may improve the speed in which you get over him as if you in no position to see him you should forget the loser sooner.
just my opinion.
email me if with yahoo answers in the subject line (english language only please. all other languages are blocked as spam). if you want someone to talk to about this.
2006-07-10 05:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by thebestnamesarealreadytaken0909 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it some time. It’s good that you got out of that relationship when you did. If things escalated as they did in three years without a serious commitment; imagine what they would have been like after five years of marriage.
Besides, it sounds to me like he got over you pretty quickly. Why be so obsessed over someone who isn’t dwelling over the loss of your relationship?
2006-07-10 05:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by Valag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that you are a wonderful person who NEVER deserves to be ABUSED in ANY WAY AT ALL! Be glad you got out of that kind of a relationship because there are too many wonderful times ahead of you to waste any more of your life like that. Good luck:)
2006-07-10 05:09:47 · answer #9 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 years is a long term relationship it could take that long or longer for you to move on...I suggest you talk routinely a close friend or counselor..but don't let life pass you by ..Mr. right could be in your life now and you don't even see him because of this blinding love for your Ex.
2006-07-10 05:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋