I recently broke up with the old boyfriend for various reasons, one of them including having feelings for someone else. This new person is very different from my old boyfriend (probably because she's a girl) which is why I like her very much. We both know that this isn't supposed to be a serious relationship. However, I'm falling for her very quickly and i'm not sure if she likes me as much as I like her. I'm worried that I'm going to get very hurt by this new person, even though they think I'm some kind of heartbreaker who goes around having millions of flings with everyone (which is not true). What should I do? If I do get screwed over by this new person, is there anything I can do to make it not hurt as much?
2006-07-09 21:58:14 · 14 answers · asked by oh_scheiss 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Really? Oh scheiss.
2006-07-09 22:04:22 · update #1
No it's not just the ideal persona I like. I was actually unsure about this new person, because if I did anything (which I did and do) it would be a huge step because I would then be bisexual. So I did take a while to adjust to liking this new person but I'm okay with it now. Thanks for all your thought that you all put into your answers, I'll choose the best one tomorrow. I have better confidence now :)
2006-07-09 22:22:44 · update #2
This calls for a cliché: "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." The only surefire way to stop hurting is to stop being sensitive to pain... and the only surefire way to stop feeling pain is to experience over and over it until you are insensitive to it --the burned hand teaches best.
The key is to become seasoned without becoming bitter. The best way to do that is to take everything with a grain of salt but reserve some sugar until you are ready for the one person who will be your honey.
Darn it, now I'm hungry.
Seriously, you'll be ok. If nothing else, you've discovered that you like both men and women. So, if you break up with her you have double the number of potential people to date.
2006-07-09 22:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Wyld Stallyns 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are already going into this situation with open eyes. Approach her directly, and let her know that your feelings are deepening very quickly. We only have our honesty in life. If we cannot be and express who we are, then we are lost in a limbo of self doubt.
If this is your first venture into same-sex relations, and you are feeling so worried, stop to ask yourself why you are doing this. Is it actually because you have really deep true love feelings, or are you becoming infatuated with an ideal persona, rather than the real person?
Keep your wits about you. Breath. Take time to really think about things before moving on. After all, you just broke up with "the old boyfriend." Take some time to get to know yourself first, before moving on to a new relationship, whether it be with a girl or a boy friend.
2006-07-09 22:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by JPsSilentButDeadly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah technologies, a relationships worst enemy. regardless of the indisputable fact that it does look fishy that he's blocked has a bypass lock on her telephone, in the adventure that your fairly anxious about it, have a suitable sit verbal change including her, yet do not sneak round and secret agent on her, that's going to easily have extra of a reason to be sure this different guy. What i ought to do is be an mind-blowing boyfriend and if she had any sense, she ought to follow you, maximum situations of dishonest takes position even as someone isn't satisfied contained in the courting yet is satisfied adequate to stay contained in the courting. yet when she IS dishonest and seeing this different guy, she's no longer fairly fairly well worth the hardship, and walk away and be the bigger individual. strong success x
2016-11-06 03:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop thinking so much about screwing up on your part as well as hers life hurts because of LOVE and that's the way it goes no matter what it (life) stinks. Just be yourself and enjoy what you have now and if you are not enjoying things try and change them before you get hurt
2006-07-09 22:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are not always easy, but a good one is worth taking a chance. I would be patient, show her attention, and enjoy the time you have with her.
2006-07-09 22:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take life one day at a time. And female and male do the same thing. Females could also break your heart, just like men. so you go girl, have fun in life.
2006-07-09 22:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by houtexknights330 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to her about how you feel and we only live once, if you get hurt by her, learn from your mistake, cherish your moments with her and move on. Good luck =)
2006-07-09 22:03:48 · answer #7 · answered by Brownie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not to sure that she will hurt you tell her how you feel or ask her how she feel about you and if it is not how you feel about her then you should end it and move on it will hurt but that comes with the feelings.if she feel the same way then run with it and be happywith your new life trust me i have been there
2006-07-09 22:10:10 · answer #8 · answered by coco aka nicole t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep youself alert , maintain well balanced dignified distance , and go explore the new time , you will not get heart .
2006-07-09 22:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hurt is hurt babe. You just have to make a decision to do or don't, then stick with it. Good luck.
2006-07-09 22:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋