my three is bad all the time how can i get him to be good?

Answer 1

Do you mean your child? Time out are always a good one, and there was nothing wrong with a spanking - they will learn fast, I know I did... except I got a slap on the hand... I didn't like that so I didn't repeat the action that promted the smack.

Answer 2

It sounds like your three year old has decided to make his presence well and truly known! He isn't bad though! It is easy to get stuck in a circle where the outcome is that you feel your child is naughty and he feels bad. So, ignore as much as you can. Think busy, busy, busy. At the first sign - distract 'Oh look - was that a fairy/balloon/bird/elephant etc that flew past!' Anything, no bribing or cajoling, just distract! Sing! Dance round the kitchen, get the messy toys out and make a game of clearing up together. If things get out of hand, just gently hold him, gain his attention and firmly say, 'no, this is not the way we do things, after we have tidied up together we can play ?/go to the park/etc'. You need to be the same every time you need to put things right, you could make a star chart and have him earn a treat after just a few times of being good! Do try to have a break from him. Mums so often forget how important it is to have some time for themselves, even if only a soak in the bath, or a walk or coffee with a friend. See if someone can sit for a while. Do you have a local toddlers group? Sometimes they have babysitting circles? How about your local library, do they have activities? Your three year old is good, he just learn't how to get negative attention, turn it the otherway round, no attention for things that upset you, plenty for all the good things he can do! It is not easy, but, there are people who can help, your GP, your Health Visitor, you deserve all the support you can. You are a talented and resourceful Mum, you must be to have such an interesting child. I wish you well

Answer 3

(1) Keep your cool. At all times. Hard for every parent, and we all slip, but it's important.

(2) Find a time-out place, somewhere with nothing much to do. We used our room. When he's bad, tell him he'll be sent to that place if he doesn't stop. If he doesn't stop, don't give any more chances. Then...

(3) Pick him up gently, under the shoulders, from behind, and carry him to the chosen place. Close the door. Let him cry. One minute per year of age. Then let him out, give a big hug.

The above might work or you might have to come up with other sanctions. If you have to withhold some treat instead, then do so with an iron will. Do NOT give in. You are right.

(4) Never say "you're bad". Always say "that was a bad thing to do".

(5) Praise were praise is due, and praise lavishly

Answer 4

Mommy, three is just a hard age, period. But during this age, you set a framework for the years ahead. So, be consistent. Don't let out right defiance go. If the baby disobeys you, make there be a consistent consequence. At this age, I would say a spanking is rarely appropriate, because they are so young. Mostly you should make the baby have to stop what it's doing...and sit...even in a high chair if you have to, for a short period of time, with a timer. It might not seem like it's helping right away...because 3 is just a difficult age. But over time, your child will recognize your authority as parent, and this will help establish a good relationship...and better behavior. Parenting is the hardest job out there. (I have 9 kids)

Answer 5

The west is a problem house, but rather than take the time to solve home problem, they'd rather go iraq and n k to tell them they have headache.
When the nation is bad, seek out the women in it. They have certainly failed in their homework. God has assigned jobs and to the female is the homefront and the male the lubricant to keep the machine working at maximum level without stress. What do we have now? Women, the home maker has gone on the street to slug it out with their male man. The woman got favoured and the man loose out. Out of frustration he cannot lubricate any longer. The woman has left her priced and primary duty to get the man off the street and the home is suffering.
Your boy needs you and all the attention you can offer. This is the right time before he becomes moulded with this bad habit. All you need is time and the patience to deal with the situation. Make corrections and repeat the same. He hears and can relate better with you. So employ tack and wisdom to get him straight. It could be the trait copied from either you or the dad, and you can also go into your history to know how your parents dealt with it then.
Perhaps you need to give him more time the better if you can resign from your job preoccupying your time now. Make the sacrifice today to save your tomorrow. It takes a week for a child to pick up a trait and years to get him off it. You need little time to do the correction and that is for the moment.
Good luck

Answer 6

Experts advise that you ignore the bad behaviour (as it's just attention seeking) and concentrate on the good behaviour - praise him lavishly when he does something good and reward with stickers - if he gets two (three or whatever) stickers a day on the 'good behaviour chart' he gets a treat at the end of the week. Or try removing his toys one by one if he misbehaves.

Is your child in daycare (full or part time)? If not, then I suggest that it might be a good idea - he will then get the idea that other children behave themselves properly, say please and thank you and respect others (it worked for my husband's little boy who was just the most revolting, spoilt little boy you would never wish to meet). Since he's been at school, he's very much improved - though still not perfect.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Hello. I ran a children's nursery for 5.5 years in the 80's, and some of my most successful actions for this were as follows:
1. Check nutrition: getting enough protein? [not hungry?]
2. Check `regular' with toilet? [not `backlogged' =handle any situation]
3. Create [blackboard or whatever] game of "Good / Bad" divide board or page into two sides, and get some stickers or yellow chalk, and give stars or draw yellow star when doing GOOD and minus points given for bad behaviour. There has to be some reward at the end of the day/week or whatever you decide here, like something the child will strive to earn.....you work that bit out!
Hope this helps you as it did me and "my mob" - very happy kids behaving beautifully!!

Answer 8

don't have the mentality that your "child is bad all the time" and you want him to be good. Every 3 year old is wonderful and when they act up they are reacting to something in their enviornment. How can you change your child's enviornemnt to better suit him? Does he need more attention? A three year old may not be avle to verbalize what is upsetting them and so they react by acting out. When they do something that is not deviant praise him greatly. If he recieve praise for positive things he does he will want that praise again. Giving him attention when he acts out may not be the best solution. He maybe acting out for attention. This is bad b/c this means the only attention he is receiving is negative. Try to reverse that and also see what in your and his enviornement may be cause him to act the way he does. At that age, childrent are purley ractionary to their souroundings.

Answer 9

Deal with it.I've got 2 boys that are 4 and 5yrs old.They are still bad most of the time.Not bad...just hard headed.I don't really think any kid is bad.But,man,they are crazy.Time out doesn't work for long.Temper tantrums have finally gave out to fighting with each other.They fight over everything possible.

Believe it or not,it DOES get better!I also have a 13yr old and a 11yr old.They used to be like that too.They do grow out of it,slowly.Just stick to your guns and do not give in,no matter where you are.I know it's hard,especially in a store or some other public place.But don'y pay attention to other ppl around you,they don't have to go home with him!

love him and it'll all work out.

Answer 10

A cricket bat swiped across the side of the head sometimes works. super gluing their hands to their feet can help too. These methods worked well enough on me when I was a child. Starting off how you mean to go on is the best way though. Children are like tall buildings, they need firm foundations and a firm hand. My children are all happy geniuses, they remark on badly behaved kids of their own age and wonder why their parents don't control them in restaurants and on planes etc. A woman on a plane, had two kids and they were annoying all the passengers around them for hours, she did nothing about it whatsoever. after a few hours she came over to me and my 4 year old son, "He's so well behaved, how on earth do you do it?" I turned to her and much to her disgust, i said, "It's easy, a length of 4 by 2 inch wood across the scull every time they make adults want to scream." She looked at me in horror and scurried back to her kids who were busy throwing things at the purple faced passengers behind them. You don't need to resort to my rather harsh suggestions if you act now. Be very Stern with them, shout at them, look very angry and once it has taken effect, give them a kiss as a reward.

Answer 11

Create a "Naughty Step" (bottom of the stairs is good) and make him sit there with nothing to play with for 5 minutes (will seem like a lifetime) make no eye contact and do not answer if called - if he moves - put him back - again avoid all eye contact and talking. For every repeat naughtiness do the same - try and have a scale for how long they stay on the 'step' based on degree of naughtiness - use threat of naughty step to try and deter future bad behaviour.

'Pretending to Phone' the naughty boys home to come and collect them can also help - but if they volunteer to go anyway abandon that one - my little one once packed his own bag and asked when they were coming !!!

It will get better - keep taking the tablets !!!!