Should your children fear you?

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I don't believe you child should ever fear you. This can only be detrimental to the relationship. How many of your friends are you afraid of?

Answer 1

Communication is essential in not only building relationships with everyone (including your children) but understanding. How can we as parents expect our children to do better if they don't understand what and why they did wrong? There is a difference in lecturing, and talking. Talking not only nurtures, but helps the child feel more comfortable, and more willing to open up and share information with you, the parent. Information that parents need to understand their child, so we can better guide them into adulthood. Information that parents won't receive if they aren't listening.

Yes I do have children. Keep in mind every child is different, every age group is different -- There is not any "one basic tell all guide" that gets everything right every time.

That is why communication, patience, and understanding are essential.



If you have raised your children with morals, ethics, along with all the above.... there is no fear - BUT THERE IS RESPECT.

Answer 2

No child should ever fear there parents , they should respect them but fearing them is out of the question the only person they should fear is God himself not man i would never want my children afraid of me an scared of not coming to me with a problem

Answer 3

All my life I feared my mother and I am in my late thirties. To this day I fear my mother. SHe is very cold and controling and has those that could kill. My mother was very abbussive in every form and my father molested me. We respected our parents and did as we were told. Our home was run like a boot camp. We had dialy inspections of our closets if our clothes were not hung right or pants folded at the seem they were thrown on the floor. We dusted and vacumed the house everyday and my mouther would check for dust. But because of that fear I listened. Now that I am a mother of a soon to be 12 year old I always swoar I would not be like my parents. Now my daughter has control of the house and she gives the orders. I am a single parent. I have tried to get her to fear me but it does not work. I have never laid a finger on her and I do not believe in hitting or be littling a child. I tell her every day how much I love her. I was never told I was loved grow up. My daughter will not listen to me because she has control of the house and I am at her beck and call. This is my fault because I did not want to be my like my parents. Now I am fed up with her control and I want her to fear me and nothing has worked. When I say fear I should say it more as respect. It is not normal for a women my age to still fear my mother. All i want is for my daughter to know I am the adult and I am in control. They should fear you to a point.

Answer 4

Nobody, especially a child, should have to live in fear of anyone else. Just because someone fears you doesn't mean they respect you, and I want my children to respect me.
Our kids know that when we say something we mean it, but its because my husband and I are consistent with them, not because they are afraid of us. I would truly feel like I failed as a parent if any of my children feared me.

Answer 5

They should not fear you, but if they are undisciplined and rowdy (kids) they should have a bit of fear that you will punish them one way or another. If they are totally not afraid of you, they will go ahead and do whatever they want. Parents who do not have any control over their kids might as well not have kids. They are doing society a disservice.

Answer 6

They shouldn't fear you... but they should fear the consequences of their actions. Life is unfair and if you coddle them and kiss their butts all their life, they will think that's how life is and unfortunately, it's not like that. There is definetly a line between enough and too much.

Answer 7

no children should not fear you, and me don't have any many friends, just online friends, I would never want my children to fear me, its just not right and can cause many problems for that child when they get older, sometimes they tend to stay in them same foot steps in life, which only brings sadness, and heart break

Answer 8

Children should never fear their parents.. they should respect them. There's a huge difference.

And frankly, people who can't understand that should never have had kids to begin with.

Answer 9

a child shouldn't fear a parent...not in the way that they believe they will be harmed, but fearing that a parent will be disappointed in their wrong doings, yes, they should fear that

Answer 10

Your kids should have a little fear but not too much to where they are jumping every time they see you.