i had an ABORTION. was my boyfriend justified in leaving me?

Question

he said in order to be right with God, he couldn't be by my side so he moved away. we still talk of a future together and he says he's forgiven me and still wants to marry me. i understand he believes i am a murderer, but my sister and friends say if he loved me he would have stayed by my side, even if he didn't agree with my decision. that's what love's all about, they say. what do you say? (please be nice. i don't need preaching on how i'm going to hell)

Answer 1

If you have repented of your sin and resolved to live a moral life, then you can be forgiven by God. Humans SHOULD work to imitate God's fine qualities, but if the boyfriend cannot forgive then he is correct to keep his distance to preserve his spiritual and mental well-being.

Answer 2

If you loved this guy and were talking marriage then why did you have the abortion. You could have given the child up for adoption. THere are so many families who can not have children. This is not about you going to hell it is about you being selfish and not taking responsibilities for your actions. You killed your child. Now ever year you will wonder oh today he would have been one. Would he be walking. Then whe he would have been 18 you will be devestated because he could have been graduating. He had every right to stay by your side. If he was smart he would have go a court junction to stop you from having the abortion. He was the father and he should have his say in rather it is to be killed. Your life will never be the same. abortions messes up a persons mind so bad. My sister had one and her life is totally ****** up. THe month he would have been born she is a total ***** and the month she had she is a total *****. You had no right ti kill that child. Hell or not, you will live the price of hell on earth every year when you think oh he would have been one today and so on. Do not got back with your bf he will only throw the abortion thing in your face when ever you have a fight. he did not stand by you when you needed him. so he will only walk away again. I do not know your reasons so who am I to to judge. Yes your boyfriend was right to leave you , but yet he never got a court junction to prevent the abortion either.

Answer 3

He did what he felt was right. Personally, I'm not too much of a fan about what he did. If he was so against it, why did he allow you to go through with it? Did he have a talk with you or did he stay quiet as you went through with it? If he stayed quiet, & then left you, forget about him. If he can't make his own decisions, then he's not worth it. It's good he has morals, but if he did indeed love you, he would of stayed by your side..& would have helped you through everything. If he needs to constantly have his faith control his choices, then he needs to have more of an open mind. Move on, find a guy that won't leave you when you're in a bad situation.

Answer 4

I say that you have every right to have had an abortion no matter what anybody says. There are too many children being brought into the world that are unwanted or even die during the birthing process. Depending on your age, you made the decision for yourself and your future. If he loved you he would understand, its not his body that was pregnant. Just think...what if he left after you had the baby? Then what would you do?

Answer 5

yes he had the right to leave, you should have considered his decision if he is the father of the one you aborted. you might not realize how he is hurt by your decision. maybe he thought you didnt want him to be the father of your child aside from thinking that you are a murderer its pretty painful to discover that even if he really loves you. because of what you did maybe he realized you didnt love him that much coz if you do you would be grateful no matter how worst it is just by thinking that your love is the father to be of your child. you must have face your responsibilty knowing that its the consequence of what you've done.

anyway the harm has been done. i think you should pray for forgiveness, pray that you won't get bad karma(not conceiving a child in the future) for there's a good reason behind what you've done and move on. hope you had learned you'll lessons ad wont regret more in the future. just pray...

Answer 6

I am sorry to say this but yes, he was justified in leaving you. I say this because I presume that he may have been very hurt by your actions but what is important is he has already forgiven you which simply means that he truly loves you. I think you should give each other another chance. This time, I hope you would not commit the same mistake...

Answer 7

It was his child too. If he didnt want it killed, you should have carried it and let him raise it. I can understand how he feels. As a woman, if my husband had killed our unborn daughter somehow, I would have been very upset. I dont agree with abortion, but if you were going to do it, you both should have been in agreement. You're lucky he forgives you. People who think they are mature enough to have sex should also be mature enough to take responsiblity for their actions and raise the babies they produce. 3,000 are killed everyday because of people who think its their choice. I think you should choose to wait until you are willing and able to raise a child. Best of luck

Answer 8

Understand what that you killed your own child his child no sweetie he is never gonna forget it .As for your sister and friends if they really cared about you they would have taught you more about birth control

Answer 9

for one anything you decide about your body is your choice, no one can choose what you are to do with your body. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn't even talk to him again. He is to judgemental. He needs to grow up. Just remember your body is yours so don't have no one tell you what to do. lol

Answer 10

i wouldnt say your going to hell or even that you did a bad thing not my place to judge that only god can judge us, but i would say that depending on his faith and relationship with god i can completely understand his actions...