My bf and I recently had a fight, and we broke up for one day (live together, both 21). After the whole thing, came to me wanting to have sex saying he wanted to fix things, when I told him he was probably lieing and just wanted sex, he told me that I don't want to fix things. We have sex, he's a very affectionate person. He tells me he loves me all the time, touches me, kisses me, etc. After we get off the phone when he calls me at work or I call him whereever he is, he always says he loves me. Now he just says "talk to you later". He never says that to me, infact if I don't say I love you before we got off the phone he tells me a bunch till I say it, incase I was in a hurry or something. I love him, today we talked and I told him I love you, and after a sec he paused and said I love you too. When i called later to tell him something, he didn't even say it, why isn't he telling me now, is he still upset? We've been together for 5 years. I asked if he wanted to break up and he said no.
2006-07-09 21:02:44 · 8 answers · asked by Liquid Cherry Blood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We normally say I love you about 10 times a day, he is always the first to say it when we're just out somewhere together, I love that. But I'm wondering why didn't say it anytime today at all when we we're on the phone, it's just something we always do. Think he is still kind of upset? I asked him if he wanted to break up and he said no.
and the fight was about him looking at porn for years, then one night I did it just to see what the big deal it was with him, and he saw me, and is now being double standard. Telling me it was messed up of me, but he does it all the time.
2006-07-09 21:04:41 · update #1
We just made up last night, so him not saying it has only been going on for a day. Should I wait till he says it...? I don't want him to feel smothered if he's still upset.
2006-07-09 21:05:51 · update #2
He stayed the night at his brother's tonight because the car broke down, we've been having alot of problems with it. And he calls me when he gets there, whenever he spends the night he always calls me right before he goes to sleep to check on me. But he hasn't tonight. :(
2006-07-09 21:08:26 · update #3
if you live together why are you calling each other at work you are smothering him. GIve him space. You seem to be very insecure in the relationship because he does not say he loves you ten time a day anymore. You need to sit down with him and tell him that your getting older and you need to start to make decsions about your future. Concerning if you want to marry and have a family. Ask him if his future plans include you. If he can not give you an answer, then break up and move on. If after five years he has not even memtomed ,marriage then chance are he has no intentions. Break up with him, you can do better.
2006-07-09 21:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty messed up if he's been looking at it for years, & when you see what the fuss is about, he gets upset at you. He probably felt hurt that you would want to look at other men, he had has no room to talk. Sounds like this is some over dramatic high school fight that should of never reached the level that it is at now. I get a feeling he's just using you for sex, that or he's being more of a woman than any man ever should. Tell him to cut the crap & get over it. If he's going to react like this, then he needs to grow up a bit more. I'm surprised you allowed him to look at porn, let alone for a few years. good for you that you have enough trust in him to do so.
I am in aw that you're in this situation. Sit his *** down & tell him to grow up, get over it, if he can look at it you sure as hell can too, & if he's too damn immature to stop throwing a hissy fit, consider moving on. As hard as it may be since it's a long relationship, but come on...look at the big picture. You guys aren't children anymore, he shouldn't be acting like one.
2006-07-10 05:19:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
may b he miust b in someother situation or problems so he must b in that mood to talk to u that way likt usual.just give some time to both of u to think abot what os wrong there between u.or take out some time and openly just talk about ut problems. that will led u to some solution.
2006-07-10 04:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by pank_ti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your being very paranoid sorry to say your both turning into a married couple he still likes you but u 2 don't have the beginning of the relationship spark xxxxxxx
2006-07-10 04:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably still upset about the whole thing. Let him chill for a while and he will get over it. Its not ur fault anyways
2006-07-10 04:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by bleeding heart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
double standards suck, tell him you love him first.........that seems to be a sticky point with men, and tell him if he is going to look at porn, so are you
2006-07-10 04:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by arizonaprincess2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be just a little confused and hurt. Give him time.
2006-07-10 04:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it timne or tell him what you're worried about if you don't talk to him your relationship will suffer but try not to be insecure
2006-07-10 04:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋