i have this friend and we hang out like hell!! everyday i go home from work and we go for a walk and go shopping for my stuff and her stuff.. and she includes me in every decision that she has to make... she has broken up with her bf.. i know her since 7 yrs now
the issue is that she says she loves me as a friend and i am her bessst friend!! i have no doubt that i am totally in for her... i asked her out but she says its not possi... cuz she wont be able to love me n there is too much to resolve... she cant decide between me and this other friend of hers who is completely different from the way he has put himself infront of her...
I m confused.. should i keep on asking her out... friends c us in public n they are convinced that both of us are interested in each other like hell.. and our families think that way 2
what is she thinking? is she waiting for the right moment? OR is it nto meant to be? i cant afford to lose her as a friend either
2006-07-09 20:26:53 · 10 answers · asked by Vantage 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She probably thinks you're gay. I think you're about 7 years too late on makin' the move.
Keep her as a friend and get her to talk you up to one of HER friends. Move in that direction. You'll blow the friendship which you'll DEFINITELY need so that when you're in public with her, other girls that don't think you're gay will look at you.
She's your bait.
2006-07-09 20:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't keep asking her out because that's whats going to lose her as a friend in the first place. If you have a good thing going leave things as they are. Tell her if she needs anything you'll always be there and if she asks you out then you know she has removed you from the friend zone but you asking her out will not achieve that. Don't change for her and don't keep waiting around for her. Date other people and if she gets jealous it may help you get with her! There's always 2 sides to a situation.
2006-07-10 03:31:10 · answer #2 · answered by Melody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look many women like to be cautious before getting into a relationship even if she has known you for so long. My suggestion to you is to tell her..that you like her, that you want to be the person who brings her all the happiness she deserves. Tell her that love is like a baby, it starts with small steps, and the first step is friendship. Frienship provides trust, honesty, understanding, compassion, and much more...and without this basis the foundation of love won't stay strong...and tell her that is what you are willing to offer and if she doesnt want to accept it then its too bad for her.
2006-07-10 03:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the best thing for you to do is to remain her best friend. she's at crossroads at this point and frankly while she may love u secretly she is still scared of losing what you'll share- she's scared that the friendship you'll have may never be the same if you'll get involved romantically . give her the time she needs to make her decision. if she truly loves you much more than she shows , it'll come around eventually . but for now ........as tough as this may sound......stand by her . she needs you as much as you do.
all the best !
2006-07-10 03:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by dxb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have fun together as friends and it may not be meant to be. However, if she can't decide between you and some other guy; decide for her. Let her be with mr. fake guy and she is sure to see him as a fake, keep her as a friend because you never know when she may need you to be her man.
2006-07-10 03:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by zorahudson@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not metter 'what is she thinking' because if you realy love her and your love is true and you dont want to lose her even as a friend
also then only thing you have to do is that you must keep patience and be in love with her as you are now... and leave her ....and must not force her to love you ...... and i tell you one day she her self will start loving you as you want ...but.... but the only thing which is expected from you that you must not lose your patience........ good luck.....
2006-07-10 03:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by amritgoel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ask her out...keep being her friend...
you need to find someone else...she is your friend and you cant force her feelings to change towards you!...
Be a man accept the verdict and save the 7 years of friendship...who know one day things can take another direction
2006-07-10 03:40:55 · answer #7 · answered by Lotus-flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her 1 more time. if she turns u down then dont ask and just be friends. if u keep pressuring her u may ruin a great thing. if it's meant to b it will happen so just don't make it happen, let it.
2006-07-10 03:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by mireya v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her out, and tell her that while you want to expand on your current relationship you also want to keep your friendship at the center of it. something else is to keep trying.
2006-07-10 03:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by believeinlies2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably thinks you're gay.
2006-07-10 03:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anthony G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋