2006-07-09 20:03:42 · 13 answers · asked by blue_diiamonds 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
oh my god! im so sorry for you...i understand what you must be going through.....just have hope and everything will be alright...
2006-07-09 20:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by crispey_honey 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you. I had the same experience with my grandpa. He died just six month before I had my wedding. I am also at another state when it happened. I took the flight and fortunately make it in time to say goodbye to him. He smiled at me and said sorry for all the mistakes. The next day he died with all of his family by his side. But my sister who also in America send a card to my grandma and saying how sad she was and wish her all the best from God and lot of patience. Sorry for her absence during the sad moment.
yeah, a card with a sincere word will do magic, trust me...
2006-07-10 03:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by nike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been where you are now. I moved 15 hours away to a different state and before I knew it my great grandma was dying my fmaily called to tell me that she was sicka nd not eating bt that they thought she would get better. Nothing to worry about. before I knew it she was in the hospital and on IV. They were trying to get her strength up to see if she could makeit through surgery. They did surgery but there was nothing they could do to fix her. I tried everything I could to get there. I couldn't make it. She told my mother not to let me put me and my kids in the car and drive there. It was in middle of summer and so hot. My family fell apart. My sister called and told me that she needed me. there was nothing I could do. I couldn't get there. Today is her birthday and I am trying to do all I can do to keep it together. My family went through her stuff and sold her house. There were lots of arguements about who was getting what. I got nothing but my memories. On one hand i am glad that i didn't get there and we see her in that condition but on the other hand I wish I had been there by her side and tell her that I loved her and hold her hand. She knew that already. I have pictures and the memories of how she was before she got sicka nd that how she would have wanted it. Your grandma probably feels the same way. She would not want you to put yourself in danger to get here and most older people don't want loved ones to see them down and sick. She will always be by your side guiding you even when you don't feel ike it. I told my kids that grandma had went to live with the angels in the stars. You know, it not only helped them but me too. After I told them that, i went outside and looked up at the stars and just smiled. I knew she was there watching me. She will always be in my heart and be my side. Same goes for you. When My uncle died I was there until the last minute and its hard to have memories other than how bad sick he was and much he was hurting. Try to cherish the time you had together and keep her memory alive through your memories of her.
2006-07-10 12:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by heather_ac_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what your faith is but I would pray. If you can't get near her physically and she is on life support then there isn't much brain function anyway. Go to an area where you can be alone and mourn for her in your own way. There is a time for each of us. We are all going to die someday. What most of us wants when we go is to be remembered.
2006-07-10 03:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by dutchfam7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's heartbreaking... I'm so sorry.
When my dad (72 years old then) had to have open-heart surgery, I couldn't be there with him, but assured him that I would be praying for him (with him in spirit)... & I definently was.
If she's still able to hear, then have someone who's there with her to give her a message from you... telling her that you are there with her, in spirit & with all your love.
If there's a phone nearby to her & if you can call her & tell her in person, that's even better.
2006-07-10 03:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is your grandma and she loves you. My grandmother passed away while I was on a plane to afghanistan. I know your pain. You are in her heart, so just be all you can be for your family...thats what your grandma would want.
2006-07-10 03:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by ROGER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave you work and business and goto her.
money job business can be found any time you got a long life.
but love cannot be catched later in life.
Just leave everthing and goto grandma.
2006-07-10 03:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by Fishi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make it to her side no matter what. I am so sorry, I cannot imagine what that must feel like.
2006-07-10 03:08:07 · answer #8 · answered by Boogie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend jus flew to see his dying grandmother in fla and he arrived to late. He is constantly saying if only...
If you can go I'd say fuc* it and go. do it now
i am sorry for you,
good luck
2006-07-10 03:08:08 · answer #9 · answered by sandpeople_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see her.
2006-07-10 06:03:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋