I am in a long distance relationship, and I asked some of my gf's friends if she has been cheating on me. Was I wrong for doing that and does it mean anything?
2006-07-09 19:51:39 · 18 answers · asked by Soldier_boy76 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I forgot to mention that I did ask her before I asked her friends, and she told me no, but she said she has been tempted sometimes, so now what????
2006-07-09 20:29:13 · update #1
Well, yes and no.
You should have asked her first, but it's near imossible from a long distance to find out the truth from her. Likely if she is cheating she would lie to you. But I'm not implying she did or didn't/is or isn't.
I see nothing wrong with asking her, but it might upset her if she isn't. Then again, it would upset her if she is. You really have no other way of knowing unless you just completely trust her or you ask her friends.
Think of how you would react if she did the same thing to you. It's always best to imagine yourself in the other person's shoes before you make a decision to find something out. Try to be mature about it and still be compassionate. Let her friends know that you are only concerned because you care for her. Don't be hostile or negative, just be a good guy and you'll find out what's going on. Girls are a sucker for nice guys that care for their girlfriends and only want to know because they care so much---not out of morbid jealousy.
2006-07-09 20:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by royal_crown78 2 · 20⤊ 3⤋
No, you were not wrong for asking! But, does it mean anything?
Does what mean anything? A lot of things mean something - but I don't know - because I don't know what you are asking! You do have a problem with trust and communication if you asked your girlfriend's - girlfriends! Man - you truly need to grow - up before you have any type of relationship.
If you need to ask friends instead of the person you're in the relationship with - you aren't mature enough or confident enough to have a relationship close by - much less long distance!
I bet this will be a wash-out real soon! Until you mature into a confident, self assured, trusting young man - you won't have relationship that will last!
The best way to loose any relationship - is to show how insecure you are by asking someone friends to answer questions that you should ask the person you're involved with!
2006-07-09 20:09:33 · answer #2 · answered by twinklecomfort 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were. But I'm not entirely sure.
You should trust your girlfriend. I mean, every sucessful relationship has to be based on mutual trust.
But if you are suspicious, I don't think there's nothing wrong with asking. Just don't get mad at her if she does the same. There shouldn't be any double standards.
Tell her what you did, and explain to her why you did it. Then as a way to make it up to her, let her ask the same to one of your friends.
That should fix the problem.
2006-07-09 19:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by Alida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a fellow longdistance gf, i would be insulted and hurt that my boyfriend felt he couldn't come to me and ask. But then again, If you feel if your gf is cheating and you have asked- you have the right to know- no sence in keeping yourself who cant stay true to the commitment you made to eachother while being away from eachother.
2006-07-09 19:56:07 · answer #4 · answered by kmrelo04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably is cheating. Most girls really don't care especially when it's so impractical to care. Break it off, long distance relationships are for chumps. You're not getting any anyway
2006-07-09 19:56:12 · answer #5 · answered by Danny V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you keep doing somethign like this it might start to create problems. Either you trust her or you don't, in a long distance relationship you've got to have trust or it's pretty pointless to even try!
2006-07-09 19:55:15 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the relationship should be b/t you and your girlfriend...Not your girlfriends friends. The ones that are her true friends are not going to tell you the truth, and the other ones who are not true friends may lie...ask your girlfriend you decide if you want to believe her or not
2006-07-09 19:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by um_er_ra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just means that you dont trust your girlfriend... you should be able to trust her enough to not ask her friends! that's just wrong! if you have to ask her friends wether or not she's cheating on you then maybe you shouldnt be with her because relationships are based on trust!
2006-07-09 19:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by baby bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should have asked her not her friends. and if your wondering if shes cheating you need not be in this relationship you obviously dont trust her.
2006-07-09 19:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by mekellygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't necessarily "wrong" in checking up on your girlfriend, but if you can't or don't trust her, then you probably shouldn't be with her in the first place.
2006-07-09 19:57:00 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋