The whay we live and the way we speak at home to each other do you think are children take that with them when

Question

for instance if we shout alot to are children?
Or if we causs at are children?
If we degrade are children? will they do that to other pepole and their own children?

Answer 1

children pick up on attitude even more than the words, and they remember both for life... If you cuss as kids, they know that you don't respect them enough to talk to them respectfully, and they will learn that they don't need to respect others...

Powerful words should only be used when powerful words are needed... The same with volume. Shouting is strong, adn should only be used ocassionally...
Kids pick up volume and are stuck with it for life-I know... I have a loud shouty family and I have to work around my learned speach patterns daily!

If children are degraded, that eats at their hearts, and they will degrade others....

Hope that helps.. it is my opinion at least, and I know that behavioural science backs it up... but I haven't taken time to find teh studies....

Answer 2

I can only talk for my self but yes the way children are treated or see there home environment affects them as they get older. For my mother always yelled and cussed at my brothers and me when upset and know i do the same thing not at my children but to other's. My mother also degraded me but i don't for i know how it feels so I guess it depends on the person and how they feel on the subject and how they want to handle it. But remember children do copy what we say and do for we are there role models and they model after what we say and do so let's all start to show are children how to love, listen, speak with kindness,show compassion, and give understanding where ever we can. Hugs to all

Answer 3

Children pick up the darndest things from the people they're around. Jerky parents raise jerky kids, because the only way to deal with jerks is to be one yourself. Nice parents generally produce nice children, because the children don't learn all the tricks of being jerks.

Even if your children say to themselves "Oh GOD! I'll never do that thing that I hate that my parents do..." they'll still do a lot of the things their parents do. Thus we have people that like Okra, or Swiss Chard, or peanut butter and tuna sandwiches, and guys that never put the toilet seat back down, because mommy left daddy one night when she fell in, and daddy figured nobody else would ever try sitting down without checking, so some day I'll get divorced too because my wife won't be able to teach me to put the seat down.

Answer 4

Personally, I cannot stand any mother who damages her
childrens self-esteem. If you are a mother of a boy, and
you treat that boy badly, I feel sorry for the girl who winds up
with him. He will treat her horrible. He may very well end
up hating females. And the mother created a monster. As
far as having a daughter who grows up neglected or abused
in some way. She will runaway alot, be promiscuous, and
end up being with abusive men. Drugs sneak into the
picture, because they are so unhappy in the home, they
need to feel an escape from all the bs. If your that sort of
parent, get counseling, and get your children counseling.
And get your life together for THEIR sake.

Answer 5

Why would you do that to your children? Please if you degrade your children seek out counseling as to why an adult feels better making their children feel worse. Children are sponges and what they learn at home about social behavior they DO take with them. They cuss thinking its cool because you do. They tease other kids because you do it to them. You are the role model and example I only pray this is a hypothetical. Children are precious gifts and its takes a lot of responsibility and maturity and LOVE to raise them. If you dont have it to give to them I beg you to be pro choice in the future. Children deserve better than to be called little shits, dumb asses, ******* kids and threatened with physical abuse. Get help because as the ADULT y'all need it.

Answer 6

Yes, 100% the children will be under influence by parents. They will apply the same way from what they picked up from home. They speak the same you their parent speak. So you both must change your attitude in order your children not to cause you both any embarassment.

Answer 7

Most of the time children will repeat what parents do or say. One reason for that is because we are their role models so they do as we do. So if you cuss or yell at your child they may or may not follow your examples. It just depends on how violent you are with your words and your tone of voice.

Answer 8

YES!

If you're talking about your family and how your parents have been, get yourself therapy and talk about how that has affected you. With therapy it will help you to change what you have learned before you have children.

Good for you for seeing this and I really hope you stop the cycle in your family and give your children an emotionally healthier future.

You can do it.

Answer 9

yes they do been proven through psycological tests many times.