How can I tell my Mother-in-law to stop telling me how to dress my daughter nicely?

Question

For example my Mother in Law tell me to change my daughter's shirts to t-shirts from a halter top or tank top. I like to dress my daughter with style. But I don't want to hurt my mother in law feelings.

Answer 1

Just tell your husband to talk to her.

Or

Just say that your mother or whoever gave her this outfit and you are to see them later and you want them to see her in it.

Or say that she is about to grow out of the outfit and you want to see her in it a at least one more time.

Or you could say the minute you get in the door or she gets in the door "I know you aren't going to like what she is wearing but I just love this outfit." That should work.

Answer 2

I had a view tricks here. I go and ask my daughter what kind of dress she would like to wear (course she wouldn't understand a word I said, she is only 1 year old) but then I continue to ask her loudly ( making sure in law hears it) and answer it myself." O..so you want this dress? OK, it looks pretty and nice, let's wear it and go to the park". My in laws heard it and she knows that I disagree with her choice but not in a frontal way. It works all the time with me and my in laws.

Good luck !

Answer 3

If you want to preserve her feelings, you probably can't. You can listen patiently and then continue to dress your daughter as you see fit.

If you just can't stand her meddling anymore you could always try the direct but diplomatic approach. When your mother says, "Say, you should dress Sally in a nice petticoat." You could respond, "Well, you and I have very different styles, so I think I'll continue to dress her the way I have been. Thanks, though."

Answer 4

Next time you start preparing ur daughter to dress, keep your mother in law busy in the kitchen - or the garden.or just send her for a errand job

Answer 5

How old is your daughter? If she's old enough to have an opinion, she should be consulted on her wardrobe. "Style" tends to be shallow in character, so how about compromise? Let your daughter know that when she is with grandma, she needs to dress a little differently than mommy dresses her. You can teach her about the outside, and grandma can teach her about the inside.

Answer 6

Smile, listen politely, say thank you and do what you think is right.

Are you dressing her older than she is? If you are, it's not good emotionally for the child. Kids grow up fast enough. Let her be a kid and dress her appropriately. She's not a doll. She a real person.

As long as you are being responsible in dressing her, there shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 7

dress your daughter your way not your mom in laws, tell your mom inlaw i like this **** isnt it cute f she says for her to wear a tank top. if she gives her ideas say yeah that would look cute, and keep saying that, dont go shopping with her just buy what you want, if she say you should buy this or that , say yeah i will look into that, or oh yeah that would look cute but dont buy it.

Answer 8

had same problem with my own mother,,just gota tell her that its your child your choice of clothes and thats it,if she dont like it then just tellk her to get bent,, you marry your spouce not your inlaws ask your huby to get involved its his mom "is he ashamed of the way you dress your daughter?"

Answer 9

Explain to her that she did a wonderful jopb raising her children and that you thank her for her input and thoughts, however it is her time to be a grandparent, and she should allow YOU to have your turn at parenting.
This approach worked for me with my parents.

Answer 10

be polite and simply tell her that you appreciate her input but you're the parent and will dress her the way you see fit. doesn't matter how you say it, she will be upset.