I'm the total package Whats wrong???

Question

I have it all Im pretty an I m smart,very well kept, nice Im very outgoing so why dont I have a boy friend Is it because I scare boys b/c I put it out there like I dont need any one WHAT?! HELP

Answer 1

Maybe it's your personality. Are you always bragging about how you're the 'TOTAL PACKAGE'?

Answer 2

Men tend to like a little modesty. Just because you know you are the total package doesnt mean you need to advertise it. Its great that you love the way you look and you are proud of what you are but just in that first line it came on really strong. I dont care how good looking, smart, or funny someone is if they have a nasty attitude and seem full of themselves I wont touch them. When men approach you look them in the eye when you talk to them. Let them ASK you questions and smile if you are interested. Dont go on and on about yourself and how great you are. Let them find that out on their own. You may not think that you come off as conceited but perception is reality and that is all that matters. If men think you have an attitude they often arent interested in a relationhsip. My guess is that you have had great sex with some guys that never seemed interested in a relationship after a few times but wanted your number anyway. That is not meant to be a derogatory mark. I was like that once. I was smart and beautiful, huge natural boobs, guys hit on me left and right and I drove the good ones away because of my attitude. I slept with the really hot ones because I could but they werent interested. If you want to be interesting be interested.

Answer 3

You are obviously very confident as well. Maybe you should take a step back from yourself and let somone else tell you those things, without the " I know I'm fine" attitude. Guys really don't like a girl who thinks they are all that. Humility is a beautiful thing. Be gracious not stuck up. Beautiful women the world over are intimidating, even more so when they "know it". Guys want a challenge they can have a shot of winning. Not a princess.

Answer 4

There's a fine line between being confident & being conceited, & even if you don't wish to do so, you appear to cross that line. It also appears you may be dishonest, because your writing structure is not that of an intellectual person. Finally, the final portion of your run-on sentence seems to indicate you are attempting to project an attitude like you are above the very men you wish to attract. Personally, I'm not attracted to women with so much attitude that they come off as saying "I don't need you & you should feel lucky if I'm willing to pay attention to you". That attitude doesn't scare off most men I know, including myself. That attitude appears immature to us, & we don't want to deal with the drama that comes with a prima donna personality like that. Being outgoing is great, & working on your education is always a plus, but my best guess is you exude an attitude that tells men you think you're better than them, even if you don't feel that way. If you wish to attract men, make yourself more approachable. Be nice & don't be afraid to accept you have flaws, just like all the rest of God's creatures. If you lose the attitude, you'll find a guy. Best of luck.

Answer 5

Maybe you're in environments that attract people who don't appreciate you.
for instance, I am the type of guy somenoe hangs around and often gets to like, BUT I am terrible on first impressions and not as good as others socially, so if I went to a party trying to meet a woman, my odds might be lower than if she were in my church, class or something.
Maybe your personality is too strong for a guy you are around who otherwise would ask you out?
When I look at singles ads, I don't answer women who make alot of money because I figure they want a guy who make the same or more. Maybe these guys who consider talking to you think, like we learned in school, you are "above them," and they'd get rejected.
As a quiet person, loud people are a turnoff. Maybe you do initmidate or turn off a guy who wants to ask you out, but you're too much woman for him, meaning overwhelming.
I think I'll tell you what people tell me. I am also single and haven't dated in a while. God has a plan, and I have to relax, not look for it and it'll happen. I also find it frustrating.
good luck.

Answer 6

Because are too busy chasing the low hanging fruit.

It dawned on me recently that I should be holding out for the "total package."

The reason why you don't have a man is because there are few men that are themselves the "total package"

Answer 7

If you are all those things, with time the right man will come to you. There are men out there who only look for women who are these things, but they arent young! Young men want whats easy and if you have confidence you are not an easy catch. Hold on and stay true to what you are, if you change to get a boyfriend you will resent yourself and him in the longrun. He WILL find you!!!

Answer 8

It's good that you have so much confidence. That's the question I often ask myself too...especially when I see those girls who are both fat and not the best looking all have bfs. I mean, I'm not bad looking and I have a very good heart. I guess we just need to wait until we run into a guy with his eyes open!

Answer 9

You say it...but do you believe it?some people can make themselves up but feel shittie about themselves inside.it's an esteem issue....you more than likely put yourself too low and have unreachable expectations to compensate for that.

you got to love yourself before you can love others and looks are not everything.you only get out of others what you put in.your attitude towards yourself can detour or attract a person.so basically if you put yourself out there to be miss im better than you attitude then you are going to detour potential dates and or friends.

Answer 10

The right guy is hard to find. I identify with your situation, feeling confident that I'm a smart, funny, good lookin woman who's got her s**t together and no men in sight worthy. You gotta stick to your guns though, don't date someone who doesn't measure up. The right guy will eventually find you and when he does you should say "What the hell took you so long?"

Answer 11

I do not know what is the reason, but I would suggest you make "guy friends" first, then see if you can develop into a relationship once you have a large selection of male friends.