Yet another serious question.... Forgetting someone..?

Question

How do you love someone for 7 years.....

Then after finding out how she really is inside........ Annnd now you wish you can get away...

What can i do to forget her and move on? ;_;

im very serious about this ........

Answer 1

You've found out she's not the princess you thought she was so now whenever you find yourself missing her, think about all the bad things and move on. You'll never forget her but this will help you get over her faster.

Answer 2

You have to move on first. You'll have to go through a few weeks, months, maybe even years of pain. You'll miss her. Then you'll meet someone that you like on the outside and the inside, and you'll be so glad you had the guts to dump the chick you're with now. The pain is good.

Now move on, before you miss out on a girl you like.

Then no matter how strong the temptation, you can never go back. You'll probably change your mind. You'll think you messed up, and that she's the only girl for you. When you meet that right girl, you'll know you did the right thing.

Did I mention you should stop wasting time and move on?

Answer 3

Man, seven years is a long time, and you still have'nt figured
her out? What's up with that?...Well, listen I've been with
this guy for 6 years, and I feel the exact way, funny huh.
My sister calls him " nine lives ". She thinks he has a secret
life. Who knows? But I don't worry about that. It is the other
issues we cannot seem to resolve. They say to go out and
find someone else to get over someone...But, they will just
be a rebound for you. I would just go out and start dating
and keep busy. Don't look at any pics. Put them away.
In a box out of sight. No constant reminders. It takes time
to get over a relationship, because youv'e invested so much
of yourself. And it's a hurtful thing. But the pain goes away.
Just keep thinking about the dirty rotton things she's done!
Stop thinking about the good times, and focus on the bad
things about the relationship. Next time around, you will know
what you want in a mate and what you don't want.... SM

Answer 4

Oh dude, I know exactly how you feel. It was exactly 7 years, to the day, of my exwife and I's first date that we went to the court house together and she filed for divorce and I paid for it. We went out to lunch afterwards. I thought I could handle it, but it was heartbreaking. It has been several months since that happened.

We are divorced now; but it is still hard. She left me. Just like you described, she became a different person inside. Also, like you describe, I still cannot get away from her. She calls, emails, checks up on my house, my recreation activities, etc. It is awful.

One of the greatest writers of our time wrote, "forgiving you is easy, but forgetting seems to take the longest time." Honestly, you know as well as I do that you will never forget. I guess the best thing all of us that are in the same situation can do is accept what has happened, be thankful for the good times, believe that everything happened for a reason and try our best not to dwell on the pain. Harder said than done, huh? Trust me, I know.

What can you do to move on? Well, start off by not blaming yourself for her doing what she did and constantly beating yourself up over what you could have done better. Don't fall into the trap of thinking all women are bad like your ex. Spend as much quality time with your family and friends as you can. Go out and hang out with friends like you did before you met her. Have fun! Don't be in a rush to hook up with another girl. Don't place your happiness in the hands of another woman. Get your mind right. Get your "game" back. Hook up here and there. Talk about/write about the pain you are in. Get it out so you dont carry it. Work hard! Give yourself a break here and there.

Finally, whatever you do, dont worry about what she is doing, try to get revenge, get mad at her, etc. Whenever you deal with her, be as nice as you can be. Try to focus on how lucky you are that you got out early before she was with you long enough to take you for everything you earned in life.

Answer 5

The best way to forget her is to concentrate on yourself for awhile. Do all the things you have always wanted to do that she would not do with you. See all the movies she would not go to, eat all the foods you like that she would not share with you. Go places and meet new, fun and interesting people that you have something in common wth. good luck :)

Answer 6

Sadly, you can't really forget about her. There's a quote I read a few days ago,

"Once you love someone, they're forever a part of you"

I think that is really true. Sometimes I wish it werent though...

Answer 7

keep yourself busy....try not to go to places or do things that you did together....and the best and most surefire way to get over someone is.....time....the great healer. Don't think about what you (thought you) had, don't think about the future right now, just concentrate on what you have to do to get through today and worry about tomorrow, tomorrow.
This will get easier with time.....I promise.

Answer 8

Think about her until you feel like your insides are about to burst out, and push through. It will keep hurting until you desensetize yourself to the pain.

Do dating and not relationships, break the routine.

Answer 9

Date another person.