she has asked her grandpa on moms side of family to walk her . this has upset her dad he may not attend. what are you to do it is her wedding and all, is it disrespectful to her dad she just wants use to bring stuff and pay
2006-07-09 18:23:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It is the obligation of the father to ' give away ' the bride. If the father is dead, then the obligation should go to the uncle. If there are no living males then it's the grandfather. But, in today's open relationship and lack of traditional, anything goes.
If the bride just wants you to pay and not to attend, then I wouldn't pay. I would tell the bride this first before she starts handing Daddy the bills. Of course, perhaps this could be smoothed over with a sit down chat between the 4 of you ( dad, stepmom, bride and groom )
Good luck
2006-07-09 18:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why she would ask her grandfather instead of her own father. You would need to elaborate more in order for me to give a fair answer. I don't think it's right for her to expect her dad to pay if he isn't going to walk her down the aisle. If there is some special reason she wants her grandfather to walk her down - like maybe she really doesn't get along with her father(?) - then she should scale down her wedding and not expect you and your husband to pay for anything - even if it means she doesn't have a wedding at all. Of course, if her grandfather raised her, then that is an extenuating circumstance, and her father should be willing to do as much as he can for her on her wedding day.
2006-07-10 01:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her dad should understand that just because he split from her mom doesn't mean that she has to split from the entire family. These people are still her relatives and she may be close to them. She should certainly have grandparents at her wedding no matter what. If dad doesn't want to go, too bad. He shouldn't be forcing his daughter to choose between him or the grandparent. That's poor judgement on his part. This day is supposed to be special for her and she would end up remembering it only for the fact that one special person wasn't there.
2006-07-15 10:39:38 · answer #3 · answered by Garfield 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her grandpa might have been a constant in her life when everything seemed crazy. If you're close enough to her to talk with her, she will probably explain why she made this decision. I hope your husband shows he loves her by attending the wedding and making her big day the best that he can.
2006-07-10 01:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by tobinmbsc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is no law saying the dad has to pay for anything.
The father needs to be the bigger person though, he should show up, kill her and everyone else with kidness, give her a decent gift and then that's it. He can be partially relieved that he doesn't have to pay for alot.
Good luck.
2006-07-10 01:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is disrespectful for her father to be jealous of his step daughter's choices, and to disaprove of her wedding, yes. It's also disrespectful of him to not attend. Although by rights, her father should be the one to walk her and give her away.
2006-07-10 01:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would your partner feel bad about it? his daughter chose the best person she thought she'd be comfortable with walking her to the altar. maybe he was a jerk of a dad in the first place. he left his family, remember? so all in all he deserves that lol have a nice day
2006-07-10 01:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably asked the person with whom she felt most comfortable, really its her day. If we divorce, remarry and mix up our kids lives we cant expect all the acknowledgments and glory, it wont matter after the first kids anyway you be too happy glowing in grand kids - sign the checks and check your pride
2006-07-10 01:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by kacooper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋