i feel like I'm the last virgin on earth?

Question

I'm in my mid thirty and it's hard to find a good man to marry. As a christian its my believe to wait to you get married. It's Hard because I feel some men can spot me out and know. They hang around me like flies on dodo they just wanting to be my first. They think they're telling me what I want to here. I just want to find somebody who nice ,not a dog or bi- sexual, no diease, drug free and have a job. Can anybody relate to me?

Answer 1

I can relate. I am 26 and still a virgin, waiting for the right man to marry. So you are definitely not alone. I know there are other people out there that wait. Maybe it doesn't seem like many but perhaps there are more out there than we think. Anyway, at least there are two people you know who are waiting :)

God will bless you for waiting because you are doing the right thing and following his will. You're doing a hard thing because you are going against the grain of society which tells you to do whatever feels good and to have sex whenever you want. I feel like it will be worth waiting for because that is how God intended for sex to be... between a husband and wife.

I encourage you to continue to wait for the right man and I pray that you will continue to stay strong. If you ever want to contact me feel free.

God Bless,

Nicky

Answer 2

I think that this is fantastic that you are hanging on to your standards. There is nothing wrong with this, and it shows fantastic integrity. I don't know if you want to consider this suggestion that a friend of mine used and found "Mr. Right"

She wrote down a list of qualities that she was looking for in a husband. There were 17 qualities on her list and 12 of them were non-negotiable issues, and 5 were qualities she thought would be nice but could accept or go without and she put that list in the back of her Bible and during her devotional time she would pray about God sending her the right husband.

She also started to hang out in various group activities with others from her church. She ended up meeting a man in that group that matched all 17 items and best of all, the man was one who wanted to also wait for marriage. They basically did group dating until they were engaged and limited their time by themselves (a lot of time on the phone). They are very happily married 5 years later.

Personally, I wish I would have had the same integrity as you do. My husband was my first, but we didn't wait. Now I wish we would have, because our first time would have been more special.

Blessings!

Answer 3

Virginity is a rare treasure these days. I know I gave up my virginity to someone who didn't deserve it, so I tell you learn from my mistake....:). It is also rare to find men that don't exhibit any of those traits you mentioned all in one person. I think the problem with people finding unsuitable mates today is no one wants to wait for the right one for them. Hold onto your convictions you don't want to sell out just because of your age. And there are guys that value the traits you desire as well as the ones you display!!! You are unique in that you have something to offer that many people don't. Giving your virginity is a gift to someone. One that you cannot reproduce. If you do it, you'd wish you hadn't later, especially if the guy turned out to be a dirt bag. If you wait, you don't have to risk all that disappointment and hurt. Believe me the right one will wait for you. Even though i'm not a virgin, I decided to abstain until i found the one right for me and now we're married. He loved me enough to wait!!! So don't give up!!!

Answer 4

I can on some levels. What I can't relate to is that you have a pretty low standard of requirements on your list of what you are looking for in a man whom you would consider getting married to. It seems like the first and most important requirement should be that the man is a dedicated follower of Jesus Christ. Once that requirement has been met, then all of the other ones would just naturally, or rather supernaturally, follow.

Answer 5

You are doing the right thing by staying a virgin till you are married, but don't be picky with men. Not saying drug-free and employed are being picky, but don't be picky about heighth or color of hair or stuff like that. If you look hard enough you will find someone who is a good christian and a good man. Good luck. :)

Answer 6

I can relate to you.

Stand you ground and live for your principals and don't you dare show one nipple to a man until after the ceremony!

Any man who says he can't marry you because your body don't look good, isn't a man you should marry!

A man should appreciate you for being you.

And if men go away because you won't put out, good! You're thinning out the competiton. You're weeding the garden!

Do you really want that shallow of a person as you husband?

Tell me, isn't it sad to see all these so called "Christian" men who expect to get a handful or cop a feel and get a little nookie before the marriage? Isn't that like, hippocritical?!

Answer 7

absolutly, im a 31 year old virgin. But the men dont hang around like flies. I get a lot of respect from men, i get avoided being asked out by any christian men, thats frustrating. But i know God promised me a man who was passionate about serving God so i hold onto that. i hope you do the same

Answer 8

You just hang in there until you find that right one. Don't feel bad that you are still a virgin be proud of the fact that you had the patience to wait for someone special. I know that the man you will marry will respect you for that!

Answer 9

Hang in there Honey! As a Christian, you know that God will make a better choice than you ever could. And what a gift you will have to give to the man God chooses for you! Some thoughts here..... Look at Issac and Rebbeckah, are you active in ministry?
You will find the one that God has for you when your ministries work better together, than apart. Are you relying solely on God to be your head until He leads you to "the one"? Are you fully submitted to Him? I know your clock is ticking, I know you feel alone, but God DOES know what He is doing! Be patient, Let Him lead you, look for the qualities of the Titus man and you will find who God has set apart for you.

Answer 10

Do you identify yourself as a christian or as a virgin?

So what if youve never had sex before. If you want to then do it. If your faith say you cant, then stop thinking about sex and play playstation or something.

Maybe you approach guys like they have to marry you first, and Im sorry, but there is nothing more scary to a man that a woman in a rush to get married.