My boyfriend & I broke up about a month ago, we have been together for 3 years. He was not "doing" right in the relationship but now he is hounding me, always calling saying he misses me, loves me, etc.
Is he being sincere (really realizing how important I am) or is he just doing this to get me back??? I just want to know what to do. Has he changed?
Im 21, he is 25
2006-07-09 17:50:24 · 18 answers · asked by Mixed♥Beauty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The age difference isn't enough to be a problem. That being said, smoke 'em. He hasn't changed in the past month any more than in the prior 3 years. The cold reality of solitude is starting to set in and he figures he can rewire you faster than laying down new tracks with some one else. Sometimes together in misery seems better than contentment i isolation. Anyway, if he did you wrong before he will again, I would suggest that you mix it up with one or two other gents before giving Mister Reformation another shot. Good luck.
2006-07-09 17:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say, "He was not "doing" right in the relationship" from this I assume you are perfect, he is not. That being the case, you should look around for a perfect guy. You also say, "really realizing how important I am". I will tell you how important you are. You are exactly, no more and no less, one half of the relationship. So figure it out.
LADY, it's time to wake up. Do you want this guy or not? If you do then go get him, if you don't keep walking. I realize women, in general, don't want a solution from a man, they want to whine while some man tells them how bad their life is. The other side of the issue is a guy, again generally, is a fixer. If you want to whine, I have other things to do, if you want a solution reread this paragraph.
I think my wife is 100% of our relationship and she thinks I am a 100%. We both work hard in an effort to live up the the others ideas. It has worked for 35 years. Maybe you should try giving some credit instead of expecting it all the time.
And to your boy friend, should you get back together. "Are you really that big a prize?"
Good luck, I hope it works out, together or separately. But above all, to every ones satisfaction.
2006-07-10 01:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me say this and I have said it before. There is a reason relationships end and those reasons don't go away. In a month, he isn't going to change. If it were me, and a woman broke up with me, I would not go out with her even ten years later. That is me though. He is going this because he hasn't moved on and chances are, he can't stand that you have. Tell him where to go!
2006-07-10 00:54:03 · answer #3 · answered by Rob K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of asking this question on Yahoo Answers you should ask him what he means by this.
From my perspective you always need to start with what you want. Do you want to get back together? Be friends? Never talk to him again? When you answer that question for YOURSELF, then you can act with your ex. You can ask him his motives if you wanna get back. You can tell him that you need time apart before being friends if that is what you want. ANd you can tell him to stop communicating with you if you dont want to be in contact with him at all.
Start with what you want and act accordingly.
Good luck.
2006-07-10 00:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by ducknapper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he has change and remember 3 yrs is not 3 days if u still love him accept before is too late .We men can do what ever to get the one we love back but once we torn our back it is the end .
He still loves u .
2006-07-10 00:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by TJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 Years is a long time. Guys aren't that big of jerks. If you have feelings for him still let him know, but if you don't don't let him linger on. It will only hurt the both of you in hte long run.
2006-07-10 00:54:51 · answer #6 · answered by Tye S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he has changed. Otherwise he would not had hounded you, but instead discussed it with you. He is doing all this from his male ego i suppose.
2006-07-10 00:55:12 · answer #7 · answered by Suva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the situation is he calling cause he doesn't have anyone in his life and he was in a comfortable relationship with you and he knows he might be able to get that back and what ever is conveniet isn't always what is best
2006-07-10 00:54:15 · answer #8 · answered by sicivic05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think he won't change as soon as he gets you back?
Move on
2006-07-10 00:54:56 · answer #9 · answered by Michael T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's changed, he should show he's changed through more than calls and talk.
2006-07-10 00:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by FCabanski 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋