What is a polite way to tell someone they suck in bed?
I'm not usually nice about this, so give me some good suggestions; otherwise I'll have to throw him out half naked like I normally would.
2006-07-09 17:15:18 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is actually a NICE guy. Must be the whiskey I'm sippin on, but I don't want to hurt his feelings for some odd reason. Damn you, Knob Creek!
2006-07-09 17:33:38 · update #1
tell him if he cant get on it then he needs to go home
2006-07-09 17:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by lismo2121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is hard for you to tell this guy that he sucks in bed, then chances are that you have some feelings for him. If this is the case don't just leave him. You should try some new things with him. Maybe he really likes you a lot too and is just nervous. Let him know to relax and have a good time. Take charge and see how it goes!
2006-07-10 00:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by anje_s2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First start by telling the person how much you care about them. List all of there good traits, how great they kiss, how sexy there eyes are, how much they make you laugh stuff like that. Then tell them that while you think they are a amazing person there is one thing that you think they should work in. When they ask what that is you tell them. That you love being intimate with them sexually because it helps you to feel closer to them. Then tell them that while you feel close and enjoy the closeness you are not always completely satisfied, Then offer to show them ways to satisfy you and ask them to show you ways to satisfy them. If they really care about you they will want to learn, if they don't move on.
2006-07-10 00:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by LA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have been lucky enough to be with very honest guys and when they don't like the way I'm doing something... they tell me!
For example my latest sexual partner said to me, "Baby it feels good when you deep throat like that but instead of going down all the way add a little more suction. I'd like that better."
It's good to be honest with a sexual partner. I am thankful he told me cause now I know I'm pleasing him better and I don't feel like an idiot for continually doing something he didn't like.
Be blunt but add compliments at the same time. Tell him it feels good but you'd like it more if he did it this way. Then when he is doing it right moan loudly to boost his ego back up.
2006-07-10 00:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dream Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don;t have to tell him anything,if you don't want a realtionship with him.Why upset his ego if you don't want to see him again.IF you like him,other than the bedroom thing,talk to him.Tell him even though you like him,sexually you two didn't connect and talk to him about doing things that would please the both of you.Give him a chance.If you are first timers(together)sometimes it takes w hile to get into the groove of each other and find out what makes the other go crazy.
2006-07-10 00:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by missyandgordon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guide them as you go along. Say "Oh I like it when you do that" or something along those lines. Don't be afraid to tell them what you want, but also be willing to do the things they like. I can't say I have ever experienced bad sex, but I think it's because I am very vocal about what I like and don't like.
2006-07-10 00:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by TheGuru 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help him out! Maybe you should have a night all about you..Tell him how you want to be pleased..I think alot of men are waiting for help when they suck..You need to show him..
2006-07-10 00:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by lynn_33_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now is that nice maybe your the one who is expecting alot dont you think and to throw some one out after they tried to please you thats cruel teach them guys need to be taught there diffently like dogs but once you teach them a new trick make sure you have a box of doggy biscuts they need to be praised just like a dog write me back at prince18102 @yahoo.com bye
2006-07-10 00:21:13 · answer #8 · answered by prince18102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must be alright outside of sex otherwise you wouldn't be asking. How bad is it? If its hopeless you gotta move on. You both need it to be good for both of you and you can't fake that for long. I'd give him one more shot and then make your call.
2006-07-10 00:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by jason d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take control of the sex. Tell him what he needs to do or he'll never know.
If this happens to you a lot maybe you should take into consideration that it could
really be you?
2006-07-10 00:20:09 · answer #10 · answered by froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him use communication tell him what you want if you dont love him throw him out the door
2006-07-10 00:20:00 · answer #11 · answered by bren40au 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋