I've been dating this guy for 2 years. He is honestly the nicest guy I've ever met- very sweet and open with his feelings. The problem is, I just don't really think he's the one for me- can't put it in words, I just don't picture us together in the future. I feel like our emotional connection is undeniable, but our relationship is lacking in other areas. Mainly, he's a 23 year old virgin, waiting for marriage. I was totally respectful of this all through our relationship, but I realized now that I rarely even get turned on by him anymore- maybe because I know nothing will happen. He can satisfy me in other ways, but I never feel in the mood now. I know this sounds stupid because 20 years down the road it's the emotional and not physical part that will matter, but right now I'm not happy. I've been contemplating breaking up with him, but everytime I think about it I get really sad knowing I'll lose him completely. I love him, but maybe I'm not in love with him... Any advice?
2006-07-09 17:13:44 · 2 answers · asked by ellenpop16 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is always tough when you truly care for and respect the person, just don't feel they're the one for you anymore. It is normal for the physical part to decline a little after awhile, so think carefully if you're just missing something new and exciting. It's also normal to think the grass is greener, look forward to dating new people, and then one night when you're tired of jerks miss your old, sweet boyfriend.
But, when it all comes down to it, he deserves someone who finds him exciting and is looking forward to a future with him, and you deserve someone who compliments you in all ways. If you two are about the same age, you're both young. He may be hurt at first if you break up, but it is possible that you two can remain friends or even reconnect somewhere down the road. And as you already know, ending a relationship isn't easy even if you're the one who wants out. It's not a yes or no, but it's the best advice I've got.
2006-07-09 17:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by BB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...heres what i say...u probably need a break....u need to see what life will be like when hes gone...just tell him how u feel and that u want to se if this is what u really want thats all i know to tell ya its what i would do
2006-07-09 17:23:14 · answer #2 · answered by hmmm..... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋