to all the moms?

Question

im babysetting a little 6 year old and im 17, i believe shes a lesbian, she keeps pulling my shirt down talking about how hot girls are, wanting me 2 and her 2 strip in front of eachother, well of course i tell her no but im afraid if i told her mom she wouldnt believe me and somehow ill get blamed. what would you do if it was ur kid and her babysitter?

Answer 1

if this was my child i would want to know what she was doing, in most cases it is just curiousity, in a more serious case it could be something going on with the child and an adult, i would try asking the little girl when she says these things "where did you hear that" or " how do you know these things" if it seems to be just curiosity, then i would tell her mom, if her answers seem to be taught to her or done to her then i would maybe let her parents know and then report it to some kind of authorities, such as social workers, i hope that is not the case because no child should have to go through that, good luck to you and dont worry so much about being blamed because most children dont lie

Answer 2

You are only 17, so you need to protect yourself as well. Either the child is doing this for shock value; she has learned this behavior from something she has seen in the house (ie, tv, parents, other babysitters, etc.), you need to tell the child that taking off clothes in front of each other is not acceptable, and that she needs to stay clothed.
You also need to tell the mom that her daughter has said some things that make you uncomfortable, so that she can look into the issue. Just because the girl is only 6, doesn't mean she hasn't been exposed to sexual situations via television, or even her parents. It's sad but true, they see too much too soon.
If the mom doesn't believe you, or if you continue to feel uncomfortable, don't babysit there again. That will at least get you out of a situation where you could get blamed for something that's not your fault.

Answer 3

Girls around 4, 5, 6 often are just figuring out they are girls and are extra-girly (they go through a period where they love pink and may only wear frilly dresses). Some uninformed men believe they are little flirts, but this is not sexual (and she is not a lesbian I don't think!) but just figuring out what it is to be a girl. But the thing about how hot girls are, if she is using that language, maybe she is being exposed to something inappropriate, like porno.

I agree with others that you have to say something to the mom, or you might get blamed. And not babysit her again.

Answer 4

WOW! Unbelievable. Try talking to the little girl and find out where this is all coming from. Give her a candy bar or something as a little bribe may get her talking, but try to get her to tell you if it is happening to her. I don't believe T.V is the main cause but I think someone is watching lesbian movies in front of her or its a case of abuse. I am sure she will tell you something and then go to a social worker, they will deal with the matter more seriously and they will not mention ur name unless necessary. Don't delay it she is only a child

Answer 5

Sounds like she's simply acting out things she's seen that are obviously inappropriate for a young child. It would be easy to overreact in your situation. It's very possible these parents just haven't got the sense to realize the crap they're watching is affecting their child. As a mom- I'd definitely want to know about this behavior. Maybe suggest to the mother that her daughter seems to be acting out things she might have seen in movies "or something". I would let her know also that you were uncomfortable & ask her how she'd like you to handle this situation in case it happens again. Her response will tell you a lot. If you are uneasy with her response please talk w/ an adult you trust. There may be a real problem in that home.

Answer 6

That is behaviour that needs to be followed up. She has obviously seen/heard behaviour like that to mimic it. There may be an innocent answer but also there may be a reason which could give cause for concern. My advice would be to talk to someone who deals in child protection. If she does this again you could ask "why are you doing that?" (but don't be accusing, just inquiring. If she gives an answer which you feel concerned about then you should take the matter further.

Answer 7

Sounds like trouble to me. I would tell her mom that I could not babysit any more. All that little girl has got to do is tell her mother that you are stripping in front of her and your wourld would be turned upside down. Even if you aren't, you would still be looked at as if you were. Find another job and stay away from that little girl. Trouble. Trouble. Trouble.

Answer 8

Wow! That's not normal behavior for a 6 year old! I'd wonder about what she's been watching on TV, or perhaps experiencing in real life. Talk to a social worker about her!

To those of you advising to say and do nothiing, ARE YOU NUTS????? She could save this child from abuse! Even if the little girl is "just watching porn" that is a form of abuse, you know! SHEESH!!!

Answer 9

It sounds to me like that child is being abused in some way. She may never have been touched but she's certainly been exposed to it. I have 8 children and none of them acted like that at her age. And for those who say it's curiosity, no, curiosity is when she asks questions, saying how hot girls are and such is a sign of abuse and you need to talk to both her mom and yours, and do not babysit again. If her mom doesn't think it's a big deal then I advise you to get in contact with your local CYS. Or social servies or whatever they call themselves there.

Answer 10

I am not sure if you are really serious about this or what.

Talk to her mother immediately. While six year olds are curious, this seems out of the ordinary. I would just put it quite plainly to the mom....."I need to share something disturbing that happened today with your daughter".

A six yr old does not even know what a lesbian is....good grief.