Several years ago, my husband quit drinking. At his request, I don't have alcohol in the house, nor do I drink in front of him when we are alone (at home or at a restaurant). But he doesn't mind others ordering drinks or wine if we are out to dinner with friends. Is this odd?
2006-07-09 16:40:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
No its normal. He is testing himself to reassure that he still has control.
2006-07-09 16:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by barbaradjt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not odd. He probably feels more secure and less tempted if you are not drinking in front of him. Like you are really in the whole not drinking thing together. If that's what it takes to keep him sober then I say do it. My ex said he was going to quit drinking for years and many black eyes and some facial nerve damage later I left him. So instead of thinking it's a bad thing be thankful that he has quit and stayed sober. And like I said if you not drinking helps him not drink then try to be understanding of him. Good luck!!
2006-07-09 23:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Stacy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be happy he quit; he's trying not to let his problem decide what others do. I think it's probably easier to not have others drinking. As his wife, I think you should just be happy he's sober; not drinking when the two of you are alone is probably a small price to pay... that is if he's going to meetings as I understand dry drunks can be worse than a practicing alcoholic. God Bless you both. By the way, go to AlAnon and they can help you with these issues.
2006-07-10 01:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband wouldn't quit and he couldn't stand the pain anymore when he found out his liver was dying, his heart was going out and his ears weren't ever going to stop ringing unless he quit, but the urge was so strong, he finally shot himself. He passed away the next day. Consider yourself blessed and ask if he doesn't mind if you have a girl's night out and go have a social drink at that time.
2006-07-09 23:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think is little odd, but him deciding not to drink was a good thing, and you agreeing to not have a drink in the house or drinking in front of him was nice too.
If that's the way he wants and you can support it, then by all means. Who cares if his method is little odd.
He is probablly asking you (unconciously) for your support of his decisions.
2006-07-09 23:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To not drink is not strange. To drink, can become strange. You do not have a problem, unless you "like" to drink, in that case you are the problem. Not him. Why would he want to control the world just because he quit. I do not mind others drinking in my presence. But no alcohol is permitted in my home.For your answer, No it is not odd.
2006-07-09 23:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by Joseph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are righ to respect him in not imbibing also. He is more intimate with you than your aquaintances. If you imbibe and he kisses you the residual taste/smell could weaken his reserve and he might want to start drinking again. Besides, isn't it worth it to not drink rather than causing your husband to stumble?
2006-07-09 23:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by waney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not ask for a compromise, and have a drink when u go out but not when ur at home
2006-07-10 01:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by duff007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very odd. I say divorce and go have a good time
2006-07-09 23:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by theechrismartin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he is respecting them. Not that he's is disrespecting you but expects you to support him. It's not odd, keep doing what you are doing.
2006-07-09 23:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by JulyBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋