She was messing with him while he was married and alot of the people in the church (right now over 3,000members) know she is the cause of his last divorce. He is 25 years older than her and he is hitting on me. He put his hands on my behind at a dinner party and then he told me he wants me not her. My sister sees $$$ but believes he loves her. I have tried to tell her about him but she says I am jealous. I'm not jealous. What would you do if it was your sister and you loved her very much?
2006-07-09 16:16:00 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My first question would be who is this man accountable to? Is there not a board of elders or something like it in which you can share this information with? If this is true, this man is indangering the congregation as well as your sister. How is it that he obtained a divorce while still in the pulpit? The bible is clear on this subject and I'm wondering what church you belong to that would allow a pastor to continue to teach while currently involved in sexual sin as well as divorce for convenience. Your sister and this man should be offered the opportunity to repent and ask forgiveness from God and the congregation that he has been teaching. I don't know if he knows just how God views those who presumably teach the word, but it says that they are judged twofold by what they do (guess that means don't mess with Gods people). If they refuse, they need to be seperated from the congregation for whatever time it takes for them to be humbled and desire forgiveness. Unfortunately, you also would need to break ties with her until the time of her repentance. This IS an act of love, its tough to do, but it is still love. Jesus wants to break us of sin, not crush us because of sin. Just keep in mind that we all are sinners and are just as capable of falling into various kinds of sin as this man and your sister. Hate the sin, love the sinner...God does.
2006-07-09 16:33:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what religion you are but not too many faiths would tolerate their preacher to act like a male whore.. I wonder how many children he is supporting? Your sister might change her mind if she discovers how much he pays in child support.
You did all you could to advice her and be a support for her. She was fooling around with him knowing he was married to another woman. That doesn't make her any better than him.
As for you, if he makes another move towards you I would say to him, "touch me again and I will take you before the church and tell them you won't leave me alone". I am sure, with his ungodly reputation, they wouldn't have a problem believing you.
I like the idea Moses posted. That is a good one......
2006-07-09 23:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth. His 3 prior marriages had one thing in common besides ending in divorce, HIM. Now from what you say she may not be looking to marry for the right reasons either, I don't know, I'm not her judge. Why is a man that cannot run his personal life being looked at as representing God? If she will not listen and proceeds, at least talk her into a pre-nup with his track record. Good luck to both of you. Boo on him.
2006-07-09 23:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by lifeisgood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of preacher is this? Someone needs to remove him from the church. Preachers like that are the ones who five all other preachers bad names. Someone should report this behavior and get him out. How in the world can he say he is a man of God? oh- it kills me to think of him pretending to be a man of God and up in front of all those people. I can't believe you think that is OK for him to still call himself a preacher. Your sister needs to run, and so does everyone else.
2006-07-09 23:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up a camera, and set him up. Then show her the tape.
You can't confront her about it unless you have proof. But once a cheater, always a cheater. If she marries him, the marriage WILL fail. Let's just hope if she goes through with it that there won't be children. They don't deserve to be brought into that mess.
2006-07-09 23:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by Luann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plead with her to break it off. Explain to her that divorce and remarriage is forbidden by Christ (Matthew 19). Encourage her that no amount of money will be worth the pain she is putting herself through.
2006-07-09 23:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by Cameron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly if the preacher at your church is behaving like this i would consider finding a new church....pray for your sister to find someone else because if she doesnt shes going to become one of the divorced wives of this guy...
2006-07-09 23:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her make her own mistakes and stay as far away from him as you can. If you have flat out told her what he does and she doesn not believe you then there is nothing else you can do that will get her to change her mind.
2006-07-09 23:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by cerwenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell her whats up have her come close to the same time tell her last min,that hes comeing you just wanted her to see what kind of life shed have with him and if she still wants him go to your assistant pastor with this video works as a trap to or have the other pastor be waiting to. if its about money she;ll do it anyway no mATTER WHAT.
2006-07-09 23:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by Littlefrog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her make her own mistakes. It's the only way she will learn. Be there for her when her heart is inevitably broken and he goes for the next younger, naive girl.
2006-07-09 23:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋