i am angry at my father. i've disliked him for a few years now. but, i need to apologize to him before it's too late. i'm in a pretty tight situation. the thing is, i don't want to talk to him. i don't even want to look at his face. i know damn well i have to change my ways before i regret it. it's just... how do you be nice to a person who you extremely loathe?
2006-07-09 16:14:56 · 19 answers · asked by anak sendu 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Believe me, you will regret it if you don't talk to your father. I was angry at mine, then he died in a car crash and I never even got to even talk to him, before this happened. So, please don't make the same mistake I did. Swallow your pride and just go see him. Whatever problems you may have had, you need to just move forward.
Good luck!
:)
2006-07-09 16:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by Shannon G 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since it's been a few years since you spoke with him last, maybe writing him a letter would help open the door to further communication with him. When you write, you have the advantage of truly thinking out everything you want to say, carefully, before saying it. You can always edit the final copy, too. If you still "extremely loathe" him, as you say, then what good will it really do to apologize? Think about that. Is it important to have the forgiveness of someone that you feel you hate? Or could it be that you hesitate because deep down inside you feel he owes you an apology as well- and maybe you're afraid that he won't see it that way, and you'd end up hating him more?
If you decide to apologize for whatever it is you feel you've done, just remember, you may not get the response back from him that you want, deserve or need. You need to be prepared for that. But I suggest if you truly are sorry, you apologize anyway, regardless, because at least then you'll be able to let it go, and to know you did what you felt was the right thing to do, and you can sleep at night.
2006-07-09 23:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by It's Ms. Fusion if you're Nasty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start from step 1 and go up... first B a lil nicer 2 him (just a little)then smile then go step by step u dont need 2 B come the best Father-daughter in an hour ....tell him ur reasons nicely if it dosent work then B logical about it and explain why u feel that certain way.... and if u think that its his fault 4 sure then listen 2 his reasons even if they may seem illogical @ the moment, If u know that u r @ fault then find ways 2 say sorri like i told u a couple above... Contact me if u want.....life is 2 short B nice
2006-07-09 23:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by XXX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what happen between you and your father so it is a bit hard tell you what you could do. If you feel you need to apologize. DO SO. There are a lot of things that happen to me when I was a kid and I have some good reasons to dislike my dad but I do not. I am sure that there are some things that your father has done that are GOOD. Stop concentrating on the bad things, stop living in the past. Life is in you today and you create your own tomorrow. Apologize!!
2006-07-09 23:33:45 · answer #4 · answered by derek P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell, I hate my mother and I'd rather die then appologize to her. I don't need her, she's a terrible person, and I if I do so happen to "need" her later in life, then it's my **** up. Point being, is I won't need her.
Anyway, do what you want. If you really, truly hate him, then the consequences are irrelevant. Though it seems that you're trying to force yourself to accept him again. Bad idea. It can lead to stress and anger in the future. Do not say you're sorry unless you'll mean it, and right now it doesn't look like you mean it.
If you want him out of your life, do it now rather than later. Later will only increase the problem.
2006-07-09 23:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by boo_6917 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your father and you have only one father. You must bow with respect no matter how bad your dad can be. Perhaps by seeking his forgiveness first will help your dad to change his bad attitude too. It will work both ways. You know that you must do it before it's too late......you can help him to change too before it's too late....so go now....tell him that he has been a great dad. You don't have to apologize right away...strike a conversation first then apologize when time is right.
2006-07-09 23:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are trying to make YOURSELF feel better and assuage some sort of guilt that you have about your relationship with your father. You don't mention why it is you loathe him so much, but it's time to grow up and get over your little snit. Merely express to him that you are sorry (it won't kill you to say this, so out with it) that your relationship with him has not been better over the years, and leave it at that.
2006-07-10 00:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
compassion.... i don't know what happened between the two of you, but understand that every person is they way that they are because of their past and the way they chose to deal with it. no one starts off life with qualities to loathe- it is a person's home situation and experiences that make them that way.... once you understand that- instead of thinking only about how he makes you feel- try to understand him and practice comapssion- this will also have bearing on the person you evolve to become.... good luck....
2006-07-09 23:30:04 · answer #8 · answered by islagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi! i think there's nothing wrong to say "sorry" it wont decreased your personality. everyone made mistakes. "nobody's PERFECT" if i were you i will say sorry for my father. he is still your father. whether he is not the perfect father but he gave you your life.
Life is too short. you doesnt know when they're gonna die. it can happen tomorrow,later or next week. who knows?! at least you let them know that you love them so much and ask forgiveness from what you've done.
Even us we made a lot of mistakes and pains to our parents but they were still there for us whatever happens.
only parents and family who can give unconditional LOVE.
2006-07-09 23:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by mafia_gurl_3480 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
father's love it when u cook.. so make something and put it on the table.. or just before he goes to office make a pile of things u knpw he'd carr like pen hankerchief keys wallet.. u know the small things matter more than the big ones..
2006-07-09 23:18:41 · answer #10 · answered by foodie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋