There is a woman that I have a crush on. How do I 'stop' this crush?

Question

Although she gives me mixed signals, I think it's obvious that she doesn't want to be with me. I still think about her a lot and I'm dissappointed that it isn't going anywhere. However, it's time to cut my losses because it isn't going anywhere. How do I do this?

I haven't had a crush on a woman since I was younger. I'm 39 now. I don't know how to cut my loss and move on. How can I do this best? I'm sad about it, but i must forget about her.

Now what? Any advice out there?

Answer 1

try to just remind yorself she's just a friend maybe you shouldn't flirt too much with her. Back off a little ya never know maybe she really does want you.

Answer 2

Hi there! I hope I can help you out a little, because I'm in exactly the same situation that you are in. I'm having my first real crush in years because I'm newly single due to divorce. Althought I've always thought of this man as handsome, and classy, I never gave it a second thought until I found out from a couple of mutual friends that he felt the same way about me. On that knowlege, I introduced myself to him, and things got sweeter and sweeter up to a point. Then, in the last few weeks, we seem to have hit a wall, and he got scared, and so I decided, like you to leave it alone.
Well, for the first part of your question, I don't think you can stop a crush, it's kind of like a cold, and it has to just run it's course. In fact, I think that if you try to deny these feelings, they'll just get worse, and they'll start to affect your thinking, and your behavior in bizarre ways. This I know also from personal experience. It's called obsession.
Now as to the second part- what to do about it? Not much, I think. You shouldn't burn your bridges completely because maybe she's just trying to work out some issues, and you wouldn't want to lose out on the chance you might have later. Try to be patient, I know how hard it is. In case she doesn't come around to your way of thinking, you will meet someone else in time, and it's better to have her as a friend, then the crush will go away after awhile on it's own alot easier if there aren't any traumatic memories to hamper your healing.
I think you sound like a super guy, and some lucky lady is going to snatch you up soon. Good luck, and God bless you!:)

Answer 3

I feel like this woman.
I used to look forward to seeing this guy but I don't catch that train anymore- I was really attracted to him too.

I just couldn't tell him what i really was, i wanted to talk to him but I just can't have distractions in my life now- i'm not even established yet, we're probably so different, he's at a different stage of his life and I'm nowhere with mine. I wish i was abit older, but then what does age matter right? I wish i had the courage to talk to him and I regret everyday I didn't.......

I think u'll see her again. Think of her as "the one that got away" until u do.

Answer 4

remove anything that reminds you of her from your life.

Remember that you are an awesome person and some one might have a crush on you that you don't know about. Now would be a great time to smile at every one. Look around you and really see those you have surrounded your self with.

Answer 5

You can't give up yet. If you are really intrested in this woman try flirting with her. Go up to her one day whereever she likes to hang, and start a conversation with her as usual (If you don't use "who, what, when, where, why, amd how" questions to get things rolling). Flirt by saying she looks great today, and see how she reacts. If she takes it well increase the flirting by telling her that "you know you always have nice hair, though." If she gets flattered joke with her alittle bit like "well I guess we know how you've always felt, eh? hahaha" Maintain good eyecontact with her, and try looking into her eyes for a long period of time where you would normally break it. If she looks into your eyes for a long time ask her for her number (if you don't already have it), and if she gives it to you call her later that night. If you already have it tell her that you gotta go now, then later on that night call her up, and tell her that you wanted to talk some more. After that, ask her out to do something. If she says yes, and it goes well ask her out on two more dates. If things are working out ask her out.

If however, things didn't work out so well when you talked to her before try taking things at a slower pace. try making her jealous by talking to other girls, then talk to her later and try again. If things still don't work out just move on.


Now if things don't work out, and you want to forget about her there are some things you acn do. First, get rid of all the things that remind you of her. NExt get her off your mind by doing a hobby on your free-time. Hang out with your pals at the bar, and have a good time with them drinking or whatever you do more often than you use to. Finally, talk to other girls, and do what I told you to do with them. Evectually you'll find some other girl to go out with, and you'll forget all about the other chick.

Answer 6

Scientifically: Your crush is urged on by dopamines and chemicals like that in your brain. When anything reminds you of her, or you see her, more chemicals are released. Thus the saying: love is like a drug. Soooo you need to stop seeing her and stop doing things that have to do with her. for some time and then you'll stop the flow of the chemicals.. i read that in a science magazine :)

Answer 7

No matter what these people say. THere is no way to stop a crush crush. Your best bet is just to normally make a friend not a girlfriend just a friend. Trust me friends take your mind off things ( a friend girl preffered)

Answer 8

u should tell her u're feelings about her. She'll be flattered if she likes u. if she's not, then it'll be easy 2 forget about her.

Answer 9

every time you think about her think about a nice swift kick in the nuts ...