People think I'm pregnant all them time even though I'm not. I'm overweight, but don't really have fat legs arms or face, it's mostly all in my tummy. (Spare me the weight loss comments.) Maternity clothes actually fit me better, but I won't wear them anymore to cut down on the comments.
2006-07-09 16:08:29 · 22 answers · asked by mamabirda 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
look them square in the eye and simply say i'm not pregnant. hopefully they'll learn not to assume anything.
2006-07-09 16:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wear maternity clothes, obviously. People can recognize them, and they're easy to spot, since they fit everywhere else except for the tummy area. Just politely tell them, "I'm not pregnant", and leave it at that. It makes no sense to meet rudeness with rudeness. Besides, the nicer you are about it, the worse they'll feel, which is better than getting immediate gratification and saying something nasty back.
2006-07-09 23:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am pregnant (only about 5 weeks), and I too am cursed with the abdominal flab that just won't go away. I'm waiting for someone to say "I KNEW you were showing!" when they find out. Obviously, I'm not showing yet.
The best thing to do is smile sweetly and say "Why thank you, dear, but I'm not pregnant. When are you due?" Usually when people ask and you correct them, they're mortified anyway because they certainly don't mean to insult you. Keep that in mind too. They're not bad people, they're just a little misguided.
2006-07-09 23:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by Luann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, by this time your friends and family know you aren't pregnant, so they aren't the ones asking questions. That means strangers or new acquaintances are making comments. If you're uncomfortable about that, just say, "What an unusual question. Why are you asking me that?"
That throws the ball into their court and they can either change the subject or be prepared to be very embarrassed for being rude.
2006-07-10 00:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the person that asked the question that you do not feel comfortable discussing that subject with them. Period.
Or, ask them a stupid question, like to the bald guy, when is your appointment for the hair weave?
To the person with glasses: I'm surprised you can see me that well through those coke glasses.
To the ugly person: When is your plastic surgury appointment?
Wait, I like that answer for everyone! Okay, let's say you say it to a skinny person - she'll think she's fat! You win.
Say it to a pretty person and she'll think you think she's ugly.
Say it to an older person and they'll think they need a face lift.
Say it to the big eared person....get the gist?
I'm really kidding. The best answer is to ignore ignorant people. Don't say anything.
2006-07-09 23:37:20 · answer #5 · answered by bakequery 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling particularly cheeky, you could answer "the 12th of Never" when asked your due date. This will, no doubt, confuse them. If they ask for clarification, you can simply reply that you are not pregnant.
My friend uses "I'm not pregnant, just chunky" and offers a sweet smile. This usually embarasses the asker to no good end and hopefully teaches them not to ask such nosy questions.
2006-07-10 03:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by eunosgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just flat out say that you're not pregnant. They'll get a little embarrassed, but they'll get over it and maybe think twice before assuming such things about someone in the future.
2006-07-10 01:48:43 · answer #7 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off... I NEVER ask anyone about their due date unless I know for certain they are pregnant and I know them well. In terms of ettiquette, it is no one's business unless you are in some form of a relationship with the person who may or may not be pregnant.
Honestly, I would simply say "Thanks, but I'm not expecting" very matter-of-factly, but not with a harsh tone. Hopefully then they will learn it's not always okay to ask those questions.
2006-07-09 23:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Correct them. Tell them 'Actually I'm not pregnant'. Maybe they didn't mean to hurt your feelings, but you just got insulted, don't let your face be the only red one in the room.
2006-07-10 03:46:22 · answer #9 · answered by Red. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wise man once said: "Unless you were personally involved at conception or you can see the baby's head breaching; asking a woman how far pregnant she is - is simply a no no
2006-07-09 23:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by Guru BoB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be blunt---tell the truth. Advise the person you are not pregnant and make a funny comment about a flaw that they might have!
2006-07-09 23:14:21 · answer #11 · answered by Fee_I_Am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋