ADVICE PLZ!! What should i do??

Question

i can't thiink of a solution for my friend and neither can she can you please help

Here is my friend's situation she need's help:

she is going out with someone that gets mad a lot for stupid little things, one day she went to the beach with his cousin and they kinda flirted, held hands while laying next to each other on the beach, fell asleep together, and played footsies
now her bf's cousin's(THE COUSIN), his older brother(best friends with her bf they tell each other everything!) saw them two and he's going to tel lher bf what should she do??


p.s. she doesn't really like like the cousin

Answer 1

well she is screwed. she needs to tell the bf first and hope that he forgive him if he doesn't then she needs to move on and away from all of the drama.

Answer 2

sometimes when we're in relationships with abusive or manipulative people (people who get mad at little things all the time), we start looking for a way out of the relationship.

we might get careless in what we say or do. flirting with the cousin--careless. she doesn't like him, and someone saw them, and now the bf is going to get mad. and then they'll get into a fight which will lead to a break-up. which, subconsciously, she probably wants him to do! because, why would anyone want to be in a long-term relationship with someone who gets mad a lot!?

rather than end the relationship in a careless way, it's best that she go to him with, "hey--i realized the other day that i'm not ready for a serious relationship right now." do the break-up the respectful way, instead of having him find out about some silly flirtatious beach activity. she should probably tell him about the cousin thing, so he hears about it from her first!

best of luck!
gertie

Answer 3

i don't know if you can help your friend but if I was your friend I would dump the boyfriend because its not going to work out. A man who get mad easily get annoying and clingy in the end and by being with a cousin its a big no no for boys so I'd really not date any of them. There are better fish on the sea don't settle

Answer 4

if she doesn't like the cousin, then why did she flirted with him? just for fun? she knows very well that she have a bf, then why did she do that?

she must bear the consequences of her actions. if nothing happened between her and the cousin, then she must explain to her bf what she's doing with the guy. sooner or later the bf will know about it. it is much better that she herself tell her bf about the situation instead of the bf learning it from other people. she must follow it with explanation. she can't do anything about her bf's temper, that's part of his attitude.

Answer 5

She should admit to it, and apologize to the bf and the cousin. She screwed up. How would she feel if she heard about or saw her bf behaving that way with another woman? I'll bet she wouldn't dig it much at all. A mistake was made, poor judgement was used...now she has to own up to her behavior and take personal responsibility for her actions.

Answer 6

She should put herself in his situation. What would she do if things were turned around and it was her bf that was doing all those things. If she cared enough about her bf she would not be disrespecting him like that . She should tell her bf herself because coming out of someone else's mouth will come out worse...she should confess and take it as it comes. For the future she should learn to respect her relationship b4 she ends up not having one at all.

Answer 7

She needs to break up with her boyfriend, regardless of whether or not she likes his cousin. Any person with such little tolerance for small things (if that's really true) is not someone you want to be in a relationship with. However, flirting with anyone, especially his cousin, is probably better left alone unless she's single.

Answer 8

she should have told him what happened.

If she did not like the man then she should not have encouraged him.

Also the boy should have know his limit.

In a nut shell Break up with the boyfriend.

Make sure the next man that she dates is not so bitchy and that she is actually in to him ans not just looking for attention for every man that comes her way.

Answer 9

Well, I think she flirted with a wrong guy and knowing her own position as she has a boyfried and moreover are related and yet she wants to flirt then she has to face consequences of losing the trust her boyfriend has for her. Face it and be sorry about it.

Answer 10

I don't blame the boyfriend if he gets upset. That's not something trivial. She is in the wrong on this one.

I don't think she'll have to worry much longer. The relationship will probably be over as soon as he finds out what she did.

Answer 11

Sounds like she really doesn't care for her boyfriend that much or this situation would have never happened. Sorry but we all get what's coming to us in the end. Good Luck to your friend.