I am in NEED OF HELP!!!?

Question

im already 19, im crazy sick of my mom, she smothers me with too much love, but she NEVER, and i mean NEVER lets me go out with my friends ever since!!! the result of my ignorance from the outside world made me make mistakes in high school, dont wanna give in to details but i sort of became the school's resident sl*t.

my mom may smother me but when we get into a really bad fight, she punches me, pushes me, pinch and other hurtful things, my parents are divorce, i want to run away to my dad, but he has two kids for his new wife and he cant take care of me...

my mom's boyfriend is also driving me crazy!!! he's starting to give signs of ill-behaviour towards me, telling me he "loves me" in a totally WEIRD way, kissing me when he's not suppose to! i am freaking out here alot!!

i want to run away! but i live in this country where it's dangerous and you have to be a college graduate in order to work, and im afraid because of my ignorance that i might get raped and/or become a real hooker

i have a boyfriend, we've been together for four years, but we're still in school and his mom cant afford to take care of me...

please help me, i know it's a long story, but i have been holding all of this back for years... and i just cant take it anymore!

talking to my mom wont help. pls give me real advice. pls and thank you.

i live in the philippines in a really REALLY small city, i really hate it here, i talked to the police coz my friend's dad is one, their laws here are nothing like the U.S. so they cant arrest my mom or her b.f whatsoever.

my dad, well he's very unstable. he had an affair with a girl my age.

my grandparents are scared of my mom.

my relatives hate my mom.

i dont have real friends.

i feel hopeless, the social workers here are like crap and nobody give a damn.

i want to run away, but because of my looks i might get mugged or rape.

Answer 1

get a job and move out.

Answer 2

Oh sweetheart you need so much help at this point. Your Mom sounds like she has a few screws loose. Since you are nineteen I would advise you to get the heck out of the house and get a job. You can always take night classes and work during the day. Start over again and don't make the same mistakes you made at school, remake yourself into a self-confident young lady who is capable of making something of herself.
Perhaps you could live with your Dad if you offered to pay room and board and help out around the house. You might be eligible for some kind of financial help through the government too.
Whatever you decide it has to start with getting away from your Mom and her boyfriend.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

You need to talk to your dad and tell him the situation. Although he may have a new wife and children, he may be able to find a way for you to stay with them temporarily.
It is not right that your mom hits you, punches you, etc. It is also completely inappropriate of her boyfriend to 'kiss' you. You could contact the authorities and your mom could be arrested for domestic abuse, but I am sure that is not the route you want to take.
Like I said before, really have a heart to heart with your dad. In the meantime, you can get a job (you don't have to be a college graduate to work). Granted, the pay might not be great, but perhaps if you could work to save money to move out on your own that would alleviate a lot of your problems.If you can't afford to live on your own, look into renting a room from someone. Even if your dad allows you to move in with him, you should try to contribute to the household.
I wish you the very best of luck.

Answer 4

Or what you can do is look for a job. There are still some places that accept high school graduates. When you find a job ask your boyfriend's mom if you can move in and help with rent or bills that way you will be pulling your weight in the house. Little by little start saving your money and find a place of your own. No one should live in home where you are being abused.

Answer 5

What country do you live in? Is it possible that your mother doesn't want you for follow in her own foot steps? Was she a naughty girl when she was your age? Could she be pushing you to much to be better then her?
As far as her boyfriend, you need to stay as far away from him as possible. Rape is rape. Isn't it against the law in most countries?
Why does your dad have to support you? Did you say you were 19? get a full time job, help him with rent, food utitlies. Get a part time job, continue with college, but still help with the costs of living there.
Your rep of being a slut in school, was just that in school right? or were you pretty easy. Doesn't matter, that was then and this is now. As we get older people forget stupid ****. If you move to your dads place, most of the bad feelings won't follow you.

Answer 6

If you're truly 19 years old, you're old enough to be on your own. Why are you still living at "home"? Find a job and get out. Nobody ever started at the top. Even if you have to work at McDonald's flipping hamburgers for a while. Save up some money, and get your own place. Don't just hit the streets looking for a "sugar daddy". You'll regret it in the long run.

Answer 7

Okay you are 19 - you are legally allowed to move out of your mom's house. She is abusing you when she hits, pinches, etc. You do not have to have a college degree to work. You just need the desire to work. Get a job any job and go to work. Save some money and then get a place and share with another girl that you can trust (if you cannot afford place on your own) and move out. You don't need mom's permission to do this. If you want to move in with dad, tell him you just need some time to get a job and then you will be moving out - offer to pay small amount every week to help pay for what you use (ie food, water, etc). But it is up to you to get your butt out of there. No one can do it for you. You can always work for McDonald's or some other fast food joint - they hire a lot of college workers.

Answer 8

Just don't be a hooker. You are 19, you have options. Your family should be more supportive, and I know it is hard when you have no help, but you can do it. Move in with friends, go to college, work for cash under the table, be smart. Talk to your dad. Tell him you are coming before you run away and put yourself in a dangerous situation. Keep your chin up.

Answer 9

Wow!! You have some issues!! But, sweetie, you are 19! You are an adult! You should be able to support and take care of yourself and start your own life without mommy helping or hurting you. I moved out on my own when I was 17. What country do you live in? Dont you have any friends who would help you and let you stay with them until you get on your feet? I fell horrible for you and hope you find a way to get out of that situation asap. Good luck to you hun!! You will be in my thoughts and prayers. :-)

Answer 10

Well, your situation is not good. It would be good it you could get a job. Start talking to a social worker about your situation. Tell her that you are being abused and that you are afraid of your mom's boy friend.
Do you have any other family anywhere? Like an aunt or uncle. If you do, you need to contact them and see if you can get their permission to visit them. Talk to your mom about your concerns and your need to get a job. She may not believe you about her boyfriend. She might blame it on you. So you have to be careful with that.
But you do have to get away somehow to a safe place.

Good Luck, Honey

Answer 11

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