please answer me&help me
2006-07-09 15:57:57 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first off you need to remain in control. Call him up and calmly say, "I really feel your actions the other day at the mall were rude and disrespectful and I can't continue a relationship with someone like that." If he tries to get you to explain things say, "you rudely ignored me and spent most of your time speaking with my girlfriend. Does not matter what your intentions were... if you really are into me you would not act that way" If he tries to talk his way out of it just hang up... let him sweat.. if he really likes you he will apologies.
2006-07-09 16:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by Twinkerbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay!! What you should first do is calm down.
Now, what I suspect is that he didn't want to make her feel awkward (you know, like being the third wheel) so he wanted to make sure she felt welcome. In the process he ignored you, yes, but it's quite possible that he had the best intentions at heart.
However, if you feel that's not the case. Keep an eye on them. If you think anything more is happening, find a mutual friend of yours and your other friend, and talk to him/her about it. Maybe they have some insight.
If you and your bf are really close, than I recommend talking to him first of course though.
Sorry that you had to go through this! I know it's rough...Hope it all works out well though!
2006-07-09 23:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all calm down on the insecurities. Maybe they are both good at conversations. Honestly you can never know a person- people can do grimey things. Stay optimistic. I would confront your friend- just tell her you felt a little left out- if she reassures you then all is well. You bf wouldn't be with you if he didn't want you- so relax and then talk to your friend. Do not talk to the bf about this- it makes you look insecure.
2006-07-09 23:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by nexus2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty much in the same boat as you are. Everyone is saying to dump him but it's so hard to do that cause you love him especially if he's a great guy. But I decided to dump him even though it hurt me so badly. I rather be single than to see him being with me and flirting with other girls. There's plenty of guys out there for you and I. ~_^
2006-07-09 23:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by strawberry_kiss_gurlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say ask him what the deal is with him just talking to her and completely ignoring you. Also how many times has this happened. But if something like that bothers you which I don't blame you, I say the hell with it despite what the outcome will be. If he gets upset for you asking at least you will know, and it wont bother you so much
2006-07-09 23:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by William R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to him and see what he's feeling! if he likes your friend, then you should dump the loser! but if he says something like he was accidentally ignoring you (which it's pretty damn hard to ignore your own girlfriend!!), then maybe you could give him another chance... maybe go to the mall with your bf and friend again! if he does it again, you can remind him a the mall, but if he doesnt change, then just forget him!!
2006-07-09 23:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by baby bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably into your friend. i wouldn't say he's going to make a move on her but still wants her around. just remember us guys r dogs and always looking . that doesn't mean we're going to cheat, it's just in our nature, we like to chase the ball. if i was in a situation like this i would talk to him alone tell him you noticed that he was really paying too much attention to the friend. tell him that that was uncool and that you're not blind to him liking her. just for him to remember who his girlfriend is. don't forget to mention that if he wants to keep you then he better keep that in mind or you'll leave him.
if you do this in a way that you show confidence and not just nagging then you'll probable get him in your back pocket.
if he agrees and promises not to do it again then give him a chance. next time dump him.
unless he react bad then he doesn't plan to respect you. at that point no second chance.
2006-07-09 23:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by cesar g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him now before you invest any more time with him!! Face it, kiddo - he wants her!! A boyfriend whose a REAL boyfriend would want to go to the mall with you ONLY and talk to YOU, NOT SOME OTHER CHICK!!! Don't let him play you like this again! He already knows you are stupid cuz YOU got your friend to go along to the mall with ya'll JUST LIKE HE ASKED! If he hAD real FEELINGS FOR YOU GIRL, THEY'D BE FOR YOU AND NOBODY ELSE!!!! dON'T BE STUPID AGAIN!! dump him now!!!!
2006-07-09 23:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by crazynays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Don't take your friend when it's you and bf
2) Invite one of his friends then ignore your bf
3) dump the toad and get a new bf
2006-07-09 23:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by Skiingred 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn to spell just a little the we will consider helping you,there is a freakin spellchecker!
2006-07-09 23:00:24 · answer #10 · answered by US SOLDIER_LEO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋